Quitting
 

I feel so pressured to stop cutting, but I'm not ready. Cutting is what makes me ME! How can I make my mom understand this?

Explain to her, if your not ready its not going to work, it will only work when YOU want to stop, you won't be able to force yourself to stop. Maybe try to explain to her that she soesnt need to worry but that you don't think that you are ready right now, but that you will stop eventually.


I hope everything is ok :) x x x

Hun, your cutting is not who you are, its just what you are allowing yourself to feel like you are worth, and trust me, you are worth so much more. Try to stop and think about how much it has hurt you, and those around you as well. Please know that I will support you in any decision you decide to make, I just hope that you understand, you are NOT your cutting. As for your mom, just explain, you can't stop until you yourself are ready, if you do it for her, it won't last dear.
I hope you are doing ok, please take care.
xx
Nicole

It's undertsandable for your mum to be worried and want you to stop, but we all know it isn't an easy and instantaneous thing to do. It takes time and it takes determination, and you have to want to quit, simply trying to quit because someone else wants you to is unlikely to solve the problem and the pressure could make things a lot worse.

You need to explain this to your mum, explain that pressuring you into quiting is having a negative effect not a positive one. Maybe you could let help you try and reach a point where you are ready to quit? Such as helping you arrange to see a cousellor, etc. you could talk things through with?

I can relate to you not wanting to let go of self harm because it's beome part of you, part of your identity, but darling I am sure there a wide range of amazing characteristics you have that make you you, and I assure you that you don't need self harm to feel "normal", even though it might feel like it now.

Try to reassure your mum that even though you're not ready to stop now, you're willing to work towards becoming ready, but until you reach that point she cannot just ask you to stop becasue it is just extra guilt and pressure on your shoulders, and that will not help.

Sorry for my ramblings =] But I hope I've helped sweetie, good luck and take care, I'm just a pm away if you ever want to talk xxx

Stopping if you are not ready to stop is close to impossible and not a good way of stopping.
Does your mum know that self harm is an addictive coping mechanism?
Must be hard.
Try to explain.
PM me if you need to talk.
Love and hugs, Rhiannon xx