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invisiblegirl 19-06-2007 10:25 PM

what am i suposed to do
 
whats getting on my nerves and eating me up at the moment is my boyfriend,silly i know- i've had loads of other things happen, yet at the moment this is just obsessing me. maybe im clingy i dont know.
hes just...meh like he keeps saying that he misses me, yet whenever i text him he cant be bothered to text back, then he asks me to phone him, yet he doesn't like to speak to me. its confusing.
then he sent me a text this eve complaining that i didnt text him today (i was in exams from 9am-3pm), and i didnt see the point since he never texts back. so i text him saying what i felt, but he doesnt ever reply.
its as if i only exist to him when i'm really happy and stuff- he used to care about all the other things, but not anymore. just feel like hes not interested in me anymore.
i thought that this month would be a cool thing to help us grow while we're away from eachother, and he can do a cool thing for people in poverty. but all it seems to have done is make everything worse. or the past 2-3months i just have stopped telling him things because it seems like he doesnt care anymore, that if i do anything i just dissapoint him,
the only times i've cut in the past 4months have been over him, and i can't tell him, he guesses its him though and all he does is pull a sad face, and it makes me feel as if i'm stupid for doing it.
he gets back in 3weeks and i dont know what to do.

what am i suposed to say to him or do?? im not sure- because whenever i say anything he ignores it.

lostdoll 19-06-2007 10:42 PM

It doesn't sound that you're very happy in your r'ship, and one option could be dumping him (when he gets back) if you honestly think that things aren't going to improve.

I mean...wait until he does get back, go meet up with him and have a talk about your situation in a nice adult, honest, calm manner. Is this a r'ship worth fighting for, or is it just bringing you down? I don't know the answers to the questions, so it'll give you something to think about.

I don't understand why he's being weird with you. It sounds like you're doing your best with texting him/phoning him, and it sounds reasonable enough to stop running after him. Let him run after you for once!

Your health and happiness comes first. An absolute priority! You have choices, so just...think things over, do what makes you happy. It might just be a case of yous being away from each other is just hard to handle, and you're better being closer? I really don't know, sorry, bit useless when it comes to r'ships!

I hope things work out for the best.
Take care of yourself
xo

invisiblegirl 19-06-2007 11:05 PM

i dont know...sometimes im really happy with it. but other times it just feels like crap.
like when im in one of my weird states he gets annoyed at me- but theres nothing i can do about it! i don't know, and hes always insisting that i dont need my medication and that id be ok without it- like hell i would.

princesskaytie-leigh 20-06-2007 06:52 AM

I think you need to talk to him face to face. Things were like this with my ex/boyfriend and now its got so far as me cheating on him and him finding out, simply because I thought he didn't care.

When he gets back, tell him you want to talk to him, stress how important it is, and don't let him fob you off or interrupt you. I guess you just have to be kind off assertive and "we ARE going to talk about this, you WILL listen to me and we WILL have a solution at the end of it".


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