lonely
 

well this is a thread a long time coming and i shouldnt be writing it, but its eating me up and i cant talk to anyone - its stupid and irrelevant, ignorable but as long as its out there i dont care...
basically, im lonely as hell. im all ways - i dont have many friends, i can count them on one hand, and thats after removing most of my fingers! secondly i dont have a love life, and i know its pathetic and sad, everything i actually hate about people the idea that having someone makes you "full" - ive always prided myself on being independent and my own person, but i really want to be with someone, i dont care who it is!
i just cant help thinking that i wanna be in a relationship - i mean in my dreams i even have a boy/girl friend (which is pathetic) but i just wish i had someone.
i dunno - im not really making sense - its hard to say it.
worst thing is i dont know if i ever will, im so confused about things, and i dunno - its just that natural instict to want somebody... sorry to be posting this, it doesnt even make sense.

I understand.

Its fine to post about this. I think you are brave and courageous to post.

I also have few friends - basically its my flatmates, work colleagues... my Mind befriender just... vanished, and my close friend never returns my calls..
Neither have I had a love life, ever. I'll get there, eventually, but for now...

Yes, it is natural to want somebody. We all need people, aside from anything deeper and further than that, sexually etc speaking. *sighs*

I also have this pride in independence, it comes from being at the mercy of my parents' emotions for years. But now I am starting to break through that defensive barrier a bit, and its painful.

Not sure if that helps any, but I can relate.

hey
ur not alone on this one i promise...i can also count my friends on one hand...i can understand to some extent the way that u feel right now..
take care
yasmin
xx

*hugs tightly* I think its really brave of you to speak up about loneliness. It's a tough subject. And I've been there...I was very lonely, especially when I was feeling at my lowest. And I can understand why it feels pathetic talking about it, but its an awful feeling, so get your thoughts out there!

Loneliness is also tough to solve. I believe that someone will come along and take that loneliness away. Paths will cross. You don't believe it until it happens, and I can only hope a really great person comes along to make you happier.

You're very welcome to talk about it anytime, just PM me, you certainly won't be judged. And you must go to a N.Ire meet sometime! There's usually no more than 4 of us, but we don't bite and we have our little traditions which you must join in :)
Stay safe
xo

I know just how you feel hun. I don't really have any 'friends', just people I know. And I also have a lack of a love life right now, and I feel the same as you, that it won't happen. But you just have to believe that it will. There will be the perfect person out there for you, and they'll come along when you least expect it. A good thing to do is to join some clubs. That way you'll meet people who enjoy things that you enjoy, and you'll have something in common, so could make some great friends or even more! Hope you're okay. Feel free to PM me anytime if you want to. Take care.

Lily
xx

thanks guys - i talked to my friend last night about this (in a funny informal way, not relly the way i truely feel like) and i feel a littel better about it.
thanks for what you guys said - its nice to know that i sometimes make sense, i guess it just feels stupid sometimes when others all seem blissfully happy and all.

and yes i will be at the next NI meet!

Its not stupid and irrelevant at all. It's completely normal to want to be in a relationship and everyone feels lonely sometimes. I've recently realised that I've lost touch with most of my friends, I don't them anymore, and more importantly, they don't know me. If you wanna chat then PM me. I hope this had made you feel a little better knowing that someone cares, even if it doesn't really change anything. Love Kat xxxx

this makes a LOT of sense and i relate quite a bit.
that's all i got right now, but i hope you reach out both here and irl and lots of luck.
xemily

I can relate a good deal. Hang in there
*squishes*

i can really realte to what your saying
about 6 months ago i posted almost exactly the same post called lonely...its actually quite weird!
i know how you feel and its horrible...but i want you to try and believe that things wont stay the same forever. i thought that i would never get out of my loneliness but then totally out the the blue i met someone and he turned my life around. but i can still remember that ache though of wanting to be with someone because i felt it for a long time. you can always pm me anytime if you need a friend. youve got friends here to help
take care
*bighugs*
xxxxxx

Hang in there, relationships will come your way. In the mean time, enjoy the single life of being able to do what you want to and not have to deal with the stressors that could possibly come with being in a relationship. That's all I got. Everyone above had some great words. Take care.