don't know what to do
 

Hey, im new here!

I hadnt SI for 6 months, but things got really bad with the boyf and did it again last week. dont think he knew what to do, said if i did it again he'd leave, cz best thing he could think of to do i think. and i havent for a week but things are really bad again, and im finding it so hard not to do it again. anyone advice? x

*hugs*

I understand your position my love. Often guys (and friends) don't understand what's going on, they think that its something that they can fix and they'll go to any lengths to fix it. From what you've said it's as if he's emotionally blackmailing you which sounds like a way of dealing with it, probably because he doesn't really understand why you have to do it.

You just need to be open and honest with him. Tell him that it's a part of you and a part of your past and that trying to fix you won't help. I know it's hard to do but if you don't tell him how you feel, he'll never know.

pm me if you need anything


amy xx

Hey tara.
*hugs*
Well done for going 6 months free that must have been a real struggle but you did it hun, which shows to me how strong you are.
Your bf doesnt sound very supportive, does he understand why you do it?
Do you get any support at all?
You deserve to get help hun.

Amy x

Thanks a mill guys, xxx

My boyfriend said the very same thing to me when he found out i was cutting, Your boyfriends just scared for you it was probably a shock and he may not fully understand what you're going through
I think the best thing you can do is sit him down and just talk to him and help him to understand.

Stay safe and stay strong
xxxxx

Its not fair of him to say that! You can't just stop self harming, well most people can't just stop. It takes time, slip ups, etc.
Maybe if you tell him that slip ups are all part of what you have to go through to get better and stop SHing?
If he is still not understanding then maybe he isn't the right guys for you?

Take care yeah hun?
Always here
x

found out today he's been cheating on me for the last few months with another girl

totally lost right now

Awww sweetie i'm so sorry.
How did you find out?
*big hugs*

thru my friend who is in barcelona, he said sorry to hear about u and the bf. asked him what he was talking about said he heard we were broken up because a girl he knows came up to him and told him she was going out with my bf. my bf , well ex bf denied it when i asked him, but eventually admiitted it. just feel so alone, relied on him so much a bit too much and its gonna be so hard to cope without him

*cuddles you* awh huni sorry to hear that you ex cheated thats harsh, even though times are hard just remember they get better and SI is just a coping mechanism and you can find other means of coping =]
take care x
sade