scared, really really urgent please
 

So there's been this truck that has been driving by my house, it keeps parking directly in front and will sit there for about half an hour, then leave, I've got the lights off so it looks like no one is home, but I don't know what's better- to have it look like no one is home, or to turn them all on and have lots of noise coming from the house so it makes it seem lots of people are home... It's generally a very safe neighborhood but right now I feel very very afraid, I've never felt this afraid... I don't recognize the truck at all, but there have been a couple people who have been harassing me and making threats lately, so it could be one of them but at the same time I don't recognize this truck that keeps coming by at all.

And I called the police, but the lady just seemed irritated with me, because I couldn't tell her a lot about the vehicle... it's a truck, maybe a bit of an older one cuz it looked more boxy than the newer ones, and it's a dark color, like black or green, but I haven't gotten a real good look at it, I was afraid to look out the window, afraid they'd see me, and so I couldn't see the driver cuz he staid in the truck the whole time and I couldn't see if there was anyone with him, and I know I gave them very little information to work with and I felt horrible she was asking these questions that I couldn't answer, and she just seemed annoyed with me that I couldn't give her more information... and I don't think they're even gonna drive by and check on me or the house at all tonight, even tho I asked if they could... I should never have called in the first place, and I started crying and I knew not to do that, police type people especially hate it if you cry, but I'm just sooo afraid right now, this is too much to handle with everything else going on and I don't know what to do... I just want to sleep in my bed tonight without being afraid something bad is gonna happen to me. And I can't even call any friends to come over, since all their phone numbers were in my primary phone that isn't working right now. :(

I just don't know what to do... any advice?

Well, you have already called the police so that is good, and if the truck comes by again, call the police a second time. Even if they get irritated with you, their job to to help people, and if you think there is a problem they have to help.

Is there anyone you can call to come over and stay with you, or someone you can stay with for the night?


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do u hav any strong older male friends? If you do take the bigggest group of them you can find and get them to go down to the truck and ask what they are doing? and tell them that you're getting scared. atleast then you will be able to describe the person to the police. Try keeping someone over with you till this all settles down, just so you arent so scared/ stay safe hun xoxo

sorry i cant be more help

I've called a couple friends, the problem is that a lot of them aren't around til tomorrow at least, and my friend Sam said it wasn't a big deal and I was getting worked up over nothing, and if I were really upset I could go over to his house, but I don't wanna leave to go anywhere, because leaving involves walking outside, in the dark, to my car (which is in the garage... which I locked... so I have to go outside, play around with the lock, open the sliding garage door, and then get in my car and drive off, all without someone seeing me...). I guess I'll keep trying to call people... but it's getting late, almost 10pm... there's this group of guys from the surf ministry that I hang out with, I could call a couple of them I guess, but they're all almost 40 minutes away from me...

Well, the police should have reacted more nicely to you than they did, from what I'm hearing. If they keep driving by and stopping you should call the police again, it doesn't matter whether the operator sounds annoyed, remember dear, they probably just hate their job, it is the job of the police to protect you. If you have any way to get ahold of friends have someone come stay with you, just tell them to be careful walking up to the house. I hope things get better for you.

So the fucking police department is completely useless...

I'm sitting here in the dark then the next thing I know someone is banging on the door and trying to turn the knob to get in, and it freaks me out, so I called the police back, and the lady got all snipity with me, told me to just chill out and go to bed or something, because it was just the officer coming by to see if I was alright, but that if I keep getting so worked up they're gonna stop listening to me... and now the truck is back, it got here right before the officer left, and he MUST have seen it and he just drove off and did nothing... and now I can't leave my house, cuz that truck is still here again...

you should call the police again- it's there job to protect you, and if you keep calling them they probably will send someone. i hope you can find a friend to stay with you!

i'm so sorry that the police aren't helping!

I am so sorry the police aren't being of any help! That is ridiculous, it's their job to keep you safe, and they aren't doing shiit.

Keep calling friends and/or relatives who might be able to come over or help the situation. Do you have any close by neighbors you could give a call? Ask them if they recognize the truck at all or if they would mind calling the police as well? If more than one person calls for the same reason maybe this lady will take the situation more seriously.

Again, sorry about the police. That is not right at all.

Just try to stay calm and safe.

Jess xx

I'm afraid to keep calling them too much because of what the lady says... she says they're handling it and not to call back unless it's a real emergency... but I don't FEEL like they're handling it at all, I don't feel safe... christ... I even told her the first time, that if the officer could give me a call at all if he were gonna come up to the door or walk around the place, that'd be much appreciated, because I'm scared about being home alone enough as it is, and any time you hear someone walking around your yard when you're not expecting it, is pretty scary...

So much for my trust and faith in the police department... and one of my friends from school, sorta my boyfriend but not really official yet, now doesn't want to talk to me, because he hates how I get scared like this sometimes... I don't often, just when that guy came to buy my truck, I didn't know him and I hate people knowing where I live, and that guy WAS creepy... I'm sorry, you don't try to learn intimate details of a person's life when you're just buying their truck, and you don't spend the next two weeks afterwards calling their cell telling them you'll come by and take them out to dinner and then get upset and leave a message saying you're mad that they've been ignoring you and "standing you up"... that's NOT normal and I'm sorry if I got freaked about that... and then I called this friend to try to tell him, and he just hung up on me... okay, I get paranoid sometimes... but I've had guns pointed at me several times, have witnessed innocent people being shot, was severally abused by several of my own family members, so I'm damn fucking sorry if I get just a little afraid of being alone, or being outside after dark, or if I try to take extra precautions to look out for my own safety... this is the first time I've called the police for anything like this, and now I know why... don't think I'll be trusting them again...

Aw sweetie, I'm sorry, this must be so difficult for you to put up with. I'm off to bed for now, but hun just try to stay calm and keep talking to people x

Keep talking to people, even if it's only to keep your mind off of things. I'm here if you need someone to talk to. I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this. It's not right. *cuddles*

Hey! *hugs*, sorry to hear about this situation...do you have a back door or a window in the back. You could go through the backyard, and go somewhere safe...maybe a neighbor's house, or a near-by business? Are your parents near-by? Or a close family member that would come over? If the car stops for 30 minutes at times, call the cops again (ignore their fricken rudeness), and tell them that the truck is back, and you want them to find out what the bloody hell is going on...

Keep us updated...

thanks for all the replies... I keep getting up to go look out the window... the truck just left again... but I'm still afraid to walk outside to the garage by myself... I can't call family, as it's not safe for family to know where I live, and I'm trying to call what friends I can, it's hard tho since my normal cell isn't working and I can't get the numbers off that til they send me the replacement... so I only have a few numbers that I actually wrote down. :( I've got the phone numbers of some people from church and from the surf ministry, but I doubt they'd appreciate me calling this late... I may sleep in my roommate's room tonight, altho idk how that'd go... I just say her room, cuz it's the only one with a lock on the door... but also, she'll be home at some point tomorrow, I don't know when, and I'd feel horrible if she got upset with me for sleeping in here, she doesn't mind me coming in if I get scared when she's here, but I don't know, this might be different...

God... I just wish for once, even just for ONE DAY, I could feel safe, stop feeling as tho I have to keep looking over my shoulder and watching my every move. I just want to feel NORMAL for once... my therapist said me having a lot of the fears that I do is perfectly normal given what I've gone thru... but none of my friends have those fears, so maybe it's not normal...

Yea, I could go out thru the back, but in the back is an alleyway, alleys scare the hell out of me... and we don't really know our neighbors too well, although I think I'm going to make getting to know them one of my top priorities... I know their cars, their friends cars, their daily routines, things like that I just tend to notice about everyone around me... I don't know them personally tho... hopefully the truck doesn't come back... you think if maybe I called a different city police, they'd be nicer? There's two other cities right near me, I know one of them is pretty nice and often VERY bored, but I don't know if they'd just be rude and tell me to call my city's police, and I don't want to say anything bad about my city's police cuz idk if I can get in trouble for that, especially if I say it to another police department....

It's perfectly normal and ok to be scared. I wish I had more to say. You can PM me anytime!

Has the truck came back yet? Hopefully not.

I don't think you could get in trouble for complaining about your city's police. If anything, the other city's police would maybe want to do a story on how bad your city's police is...I don't know...

Don't be afraid to call the police if something happens...

just chekin up on ya, r ya ok hun? i suggest callin th otha police, itl take ur mind off things n they mite help, and giv u advvice.

It did come back, but left really quickly this time... maybe because an old roommate who used to live here, but moved out, came by and her car was here... she beeped her car alarm when we saw them, which also makes her lights turn on in the car, and the truck took off... I'm keeping an eye out to see if it comes back, my roommate left, she said just be careful, because I told her the story and she said there was something weird going on with it for sure, and when the truck came by, it gave her a really creepy feeling too...

And she did tell me something I didn't know about, in the past another girl who used to live here called the police a few times when a rather suspicious car was parked outside of our house for a very long time... they didn't keep leaving and coming back like this truck tho, but it still scared that girl... she didn't get the nicest response from the city police either... meh, with my luck they probably think everyone who lives here is crazy and paranoid... but really, it's just a bunch of girls living here, we're an easy target, and it's especially scary when you're by yourself.... tho my poor roommate turned on the light only to get to see me right infront of her with my knife drawn... I felt bad, but she said she'd be scared too if she were me, and she apologized and said she should have called, she just forgot a few things when she moved out that she wanted to pick up.

I took some xanax earlier, when the police department got irritated with me and said I needed to settle down... it still isn't helping me feel any less afraid, but it has made me sleepy... I don't know if I should drive somewhere else for the night, or stay here.... It's really bad when you feel safer sleeping in your car than you do in your own house. :(