A little advice for my cousin
 

Okay so if anybody paid that much attention to a feew of my posts you know that I have an 11-year old cousin who wieghs over 200 lbs well anyways I just found out today that he tried to kill himself at school by strangling himself with a belt. He said some kids were calling him fat and smelly and stuff like that, sorta the way I'm sure most people are called names, but he takes it a little personally, liek I used to, but anyways he's gonna be in a psyche hospital for about 6 weeks, can I get somewhat of advice as to what to do? I've never been so I don't know what I should or shouldn't say or do, and I need help with some advice I can give him.

First of all; I'm really sorry to hear about your cousin. Kids can be so cruel, it's rediculous. I hope he comes out of this and learns from it all.

I think it kind of depends on the relationship you have with your cousin (as I'm not too sure)... when I was admited my best cous came to visit me and rather than talking about why I was there he joked around and cheared me up. He's the one who usually gives me all the advice but that time he was just there to keep me company and make me smile because I was so alone in a strange place. That helped a lot. I found that there were so many people in the psych ward that were there to help you through your problems, let you talk etc. etc. that all I wanted and needed from friends and family was for them to be there with and for me rather than try and give me advice or talk about my problems.

It totally depends on your cousin and what type of relationship you guys have though. If you went through the teasing thing when you were younger and came out of it okay, maybe you could talk to him about that? About how he needs to take everything that those obnoxious kids say with a grain of salt. As long as he feels good inside it doesn't matter WHAT other people think.

i agree
let him know things will get better, try to be as normal with him as you can when you see him.
take care
hope things improve for him

yeah i agree. just be supportive and caring, but try not to treat him differently. just try to do what you think you would want someone else to do in that situation. hope things go better for him than they have been. take care x

just be yourself around him
xx

If i was in that situation... I'd let him know he'll be loved and cared for by family no matter what weight he is; that he's better than them, they [bullies and such] count for little of this world; that suicide isn't an escape, rather a circle forever been in pain. Most importantly, be as normal as possible, only be serious when he's ready to be serious... don't look at him differently than you normally would, don't be over helpful either.

Though, this depends fully on your relationship with him, what sort of character he is, what sort of character you are, and if the time appears... Be yourself most of all, thats what he'll want most of all!!!

Take Care,
Keep Safe,
Domicile of Madness

Alright, well I found out he's not going into a psyche ward because my aunts (his grandmas) insurance won't cover psychological problems, but he seems to be alright for now, apparenty it was just from that one day, but somehow I feel I may have provoked it since he was the only person until yesterday I had told about my attempts, though I told him I was stupid to do it.

Don't you dare blame yourself... he and he alone is responsible for his own actions!!

You did not cause this,
you are not to blame,
you cannot blame yourself for that which you are innocent!!

*huggles*
Take Care,
J