small problem I suppose
 

I havent been on here for a long time but I honestly dont know who else to speak to about this. I suppose Im just looking for general advice.

My problem is I work in a nightclub as a glass collector. In january we all went out for a staff party, I ended up admitting I liked one of the DJ's and he made a move. Only he's 25 and I was 17 at the time, only he didnt know it. He ended up staggering off the bus because everyone was telling him not to touch me.

Press fast forward to the present. I cant say I like him personally, Im still physically attracted to him. My problem. He's met a gorgeous girl who I used to go to school with who's only a year older than me. She's funny, smart and attractive, basically everything Im not. What pisses me off is that he told everyone that he's too old for me but then meets this girl and seems perfectly happy to date her.

Yes I sound immature and when I reread what Ive just written it sounds stupid. This isnt the only thing that makes me feel low. My boss makes it known he doesnt like me, ignores the work I do and refuses to admit when he hasnt payed me the right amount for the weeks work. All the rest off the staff go out but I never get invited.

Im sick of myself. But I dont know how to fix it.

hey hun.
i know it's crap to feel rejected and overlooked. can you invite you work friends out with you? that way they get to know you better and you don't feel left out. as for this guy- well try to be flattered that he found you so attractive in the first place- you're obviously NOT so unattractive ;).
you say you don't particularly like him personally and it sounds like he's a bit of a git who doesn't deserve you- hang in there for someone that appreciates you!
as for your boss- have you mentioned to him tat his attitude is unhelpful? have you askd co-workers whether they have noticed the way he treats you? not sure what to advise really but try not to let him get to you- no-one should be allowed to make you feel rap about yourself and if he keeps messing up your pay threaten to go to your union (If you're in one) or to an ombudsman- you'll probably find he's little more careful after that.
good luck
xxx

well try to be flattered that he found you so attractive in the first place- you're obviously NOT so unattractive ;).
you say you don't particularly like him personally and it sounds like he's a bit of a git who doesn't deserve you- hang in there for someone that appreciates you!

Ive been hanging on for 2 years for someone to appreciate me.

as for your boss- have you mentioned to him tat his attitude is unhelpful?

Ive tried requesting a radio as I work on the floor. Ive been attacked 3 times in that club, he said he would get back to me and never did.

have you askd co-workers whether they have noticed the way he treats you?

Yes. There is only me and another girl who Im really good friends with and we both started working at the same time. The problem is he favourites her over me. She's very hardworking, but if I do most of the work on a night he assumes that its her and she takes the credit for it. Even when my boss knows that its me that does most of the jobs including bar work, he still ignores it. And yes my co-workers have noticed. They all use to joke that she makes me look like I dont do any work.

not sure what to advise really but try not to let him get to you- no-one should be allowed to make you feel rap about yourself and if he keeps messing up your pay threaten to go to your union (If you're in one) or to an ombudsman- you'll probably find he's little more careful after that.

The only people I can go to are head office for this. The area manager is a jerk and a pervert, he wont listen.

i know it may be really frustrating but be persistant with your boss. bug him 24/7 if necessary- particualrly about a radio if these attacks are fequent- you have the right to feel safe in your workplace.

definatly go to head office if you're being treated so unfairly, you don't deserve it. you can still go to an ombudsman about your pay if it doesnt get resolved.

try to remember hat as long as you know you work hard, some idiot's opinion of you doesn't matter- he's not worth your time.

i know being alone can be really crap but it's much better than being with someone who isn't right for you anf you WILL find someone, i can't say when but i really believe there's someone for everyone.

i know none of this makes things any better but try to remember your own value is not dictated by your boss, your co-workers, this guy or anyone else. you are worthwhile for your own sake, whether they realise it or not.

*huggles*