Confused...can someone explain this to me?
 

Hey so basically i was speaking with one of my teachers today who has helped me alot and she said that it sometimes seems like i dont want to help myself and that i dont want to get better (s/h ed issues) and that in some ways i like the attention. she said that cos my 'issues' aren't as bad as they were she thinks that im unable to get out of this 'rut' that im in and that maybe im scared to do that. she said that i gotta start looking on the positive side of things. im really confused...is she saying that i do this stuff for attention or not? i agree with her saying that my 'issues' arent as bad as they were cos they're not and i get the me not wanting to help myself part but i dont get the rest. Sorry if this is a stupid post, just need someone to clarify this for me.

thanks

xx

She's a teacher, not a counsellor or therapist.

What do you think about what's going on?

i think that shes just getting a little tired of me coming to her with stuff. but then ive never wanted to open up to her, shes the one who makes me if that makes sense. like shes the one who keeps bringing stuff up to me and doesnt let me leave til ive told her. really confused. i know that i dont or havent ever done anything for attention, ive tried too hard to hide it from people. i dunno

This might not be relevant at all... but sometimes we do try and hold on to problems and unhappiness, because they are what we know.
Maybe she thinks that is what you are doing? Because it can be terrifying, to let go of things which you have had for a long time.
I don't think your teacher is tired of you or accusing you of attention seeking. She wants you to be happy, but she doesn't really know how to make you happy. You have to figure that bit out for yourself. x

i think the word attention is probably the wrong one.
i think that subconscously, stuff like this can be a way of asking for help.

it can be a way of attracting attention...not in an "oooo look at me!" kind of way...more a kind of "i need help, but i dont know how to ask".

and i dont think most people do it purely because they want 'attention', and thats not nesecarily why people start....but it can kind of become the only way you know to communicate....


if that makes sense.....

maybe that's how she meant it?
i dont know though....
just a thought....

take care

x

Hi, first of all I will repeat what katie said she is only a teacher
but yeah I kindof get what she means because its very much how I feel although I despereately want to get better and feel happy and ok there is something stop me, some fear of what life would be like and how different it would be that terrifys me and holds me back.

so yeah thats how I kindof interpreted that I don't think she meant to calle you an attention seeker but subconciously it can be a way of crying out for help but because it is unconicse then generally people don't find out.

Is there anyone else you could talk to like a counsellor or a therapist
because it could be really useful to help you get through it and find ways to cope that are more benificial to you and to help you see past any other things that may be holding you back a bit.

Take care
much love
katy
xx

A bit off topic, but is there any way that you can see a school counsellor, or someone similar? Failing that, is there any way school can refer you onto your local mental health team?
Although it can be nice to have someone like a teacher to talk to, they are not trained to do this specific job, and they're really exactly obliged to either. It would be much more useful to see someone who works in the mental health profession, and school should be able to help you see someone in that field.
Self-harm & eating issues are not good, no matter what the reason.
Take care, x