Sex problem.
 

Hi there im on my gf's account but its ok becuase she is here with me and we have a bit of a relational probelm to do with sex.

The problem is i want it too much and she doesnt want it at all and we cant find a compramise.

I ask for a sexual activity mostly every night and my gf will reluctantly either jack me off or pleasure me while i do it. I mean this feels good and satisfies me but its not the real thing you know? i dont do anything to her as she doesnt want it.

Laura has depression and you can tell by some of the threads she has posted. This hurts me but im trying my best to help. I dont know if this is part of the problem or not?

We used to have sex quite alot. She would really enjoy it and it would make us feel really good. Now all she tells me is that she "just doesnt like it". We had good sex last week but i think that was only due to her slight tipsyness. So i guess there is some light.

Sometimes i ask for it and she agrees but its horrible know she is NOT enjoying it but is just trying to make me happy.

All im really asking is for help for both of us. So that i know what i can do as well as help for her too.

Just some help so that we do have sex but not every day.

Thanks alot :)

I know how you feel. If my boyfriend had his way we would be at it constantly. When we first started going out we had sex whenever we saw each other but slowly over time that has stopped, because of me. I'm just don't really feel like sex or if/when I do he's asleep!! He has brought this up numerous times coz it makes him feel like I don't want him and also when stuff does happen between us sexually he thinks it's because he forced me. Which he doesn't.

Like Kangaroo said have you thought about going to a counsellor? You could try a relationship counsellor or sex counsellor.

Laura (if you don't mind me asking) what are the reason for you not liking it? Have you tried to think of different ways to do things instead doing the most obvious things?

Laura's boyf - Matt? - could you try and ask her less frequently? I know one that annoys me and makes me feel worse is when I'm constantly turning my boyfriend down or reluctantly agreeing. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying stop asking all totally but maybe every other day or something?

Hope some of that helps :)

other way around for me, exactly. been with my gf for 3 years, we live together and are engaged and i absolutely love her to bits but i have like no sex drive at all. she does and so this gives the exact same problem that has been mentioned above,. she end up feeling that i dont find her attractive which is so so wrong because i do just cant help how my head works (or doesnt!)

sorry i dont know what to say to help. when i work it out ill share tho!

Urghh.. Do you know what.. I just read this and for ****S sake the reason I wouldn't have sex with him was because he ****ing HIT ME and he forced me into it. So yeah, I ****ing wonder why. **** you.

*hugs* you should probably change your password and pm the mods if he's using your account. i'm sorry you're going through this. feel free to pm me if you need to talk.

this was a long time ago, he's forgotten about this now.
its just how does he have the nerve to say i have a problem having sex with him, when he ****ing MADE me do it.

ironically, we are friends now.
i'm still scared.

well i would probably suggest not being friends with him / never speaking to him again / telling someone he forced you / telling him he's a ****ing prick.

I was actually going to answer this with advice till I saw lauras post.That was shocking .I wouldnt have sex with him either.How dare he come on here and post under your name .id go mental if I thought someone was using my account.if he raped you as linder says get out now.

that's horrible. of course you don't want to have sex with someone who's raping you! that's absolutely wrong. he honestly deserves to be in jail. he's lucky you even acknowledge his existence! definitely keep yourself safe. while i would suggest not talking to him, that's easier said than done and it's your choice. i would keep away from ever being with him alone. *hugs* i'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope he can't hurt you anymore. He sounds pretty messed up tbh, you never had a problem, he did!

wow, lawra, i'm so sorry this happened to you, like reallifetime said, i was going to post a suggestion but after seeing how he treats you, the only suggestion i have is the same as everyone else's that you need to lose this guy. I know that's hard to hear if you still care about him but if you ever need yo talk just pm me