its a mess
 

I've just found out that my 11 yr old brother is making and doing bongs. My brother told my mum this and when she told his dad (he's in his dads care) he said that its just life.
My other brother who is 13 was fast tracked recently so he's doing his GCSEs a yr early, but he's constantly attacking people at school with knifes etc. His dad is refusing to talk about it.
My mum thinks we were all removed from her care to protect our reputation and due to her MS. When in fact it was her drug and alcohol problems and the fact that she couldn't physically look after us. And is currently contemplating sleeping with a 20yr old.
My brothers dad is hitting them and social don't care. They know about it and were going to have a child protection meeting but never ended up having one.
I'm back to s/h and making myself sick.
My mum wants me to help get my sister to talk to her again, and to solve and analyse everyones problems and sort them out!
Why?

hun
i'm so sorry you're dealing with al this **** at once *hugs*
as for your brothers- i suggest you ring social services or go in there yourself-for their saety someone needs to be aware their dad is violent.
have you tried talking to them about the drugs/ violence? maybe suggest they see a counsellor at school. my little brother is on a drugs caution atm so i kno its hard to deal with. is there a family friend you could get to talk to them about it?
you shouldnt be expected to solve all of this yourself hun- focus n keeping yourself safe.
take care
*hugs*
PM me anytime

I'm limited to the amount I can help them. I'm not allowed to see them unsupervised so my youngest brother wont see me. Consequently they don't really talk to me. Talking to social services is like talking to a brick wall, my sister phoned them up once cos she heard my brother being strangled by his dad when she was on the phone to them and they didn't do anything. Its complicated with social services they've f***ed up so many times, and in the main when we phone them they just say we'll record it. I'm determined that I WILL get through to them tomorow tho.
As for family friend, not really. Everyone that knows the whole story kind of disagrees to an extent with me telling social, my brothers police officer etc what is going on. So I just don't talk to them about it.
I know shouldn't be expected to cope with all of this, but if i dont do something about it then who will. In a way its kind of my fault this happened anyway.

*hugs* sounds like a lot ofpressure on you to sort all of this out- keep trying with social services and if you ever think your brothers are in real danger call the police.
maybe a school counsellor could help your brothers?
hope things improve
take care

I've decided that tomorow I am going to phone them and tell them absolutly everything that has happened in the past 2 1/2 yrs. My family will prob end up hating me for it..but hey I'm used to that lol.
I don't want to see my brothers being hurt any more. They've never known anything but pain. And they deserve more.

i think that's really brave hun
good luck!
let us know how things go yea?

Thanks I will.
I've got to work out where im gonna do it tho cos im supposed to be in college all day, and the phones that we can use are in really public places.
Meh I hope they listen to me. Just for a change it would be nice for them to listen

public phonebox outside of college maybe? or borrow a friends mobile if you dont have 1?

Yeah thats a good idea. I'm gonna see if my tutor will let me use the phone in his office first that way it will be more private

I got hold of my brothers social worker today. All they're going to do is log it down and see if they can talk to my brothers about it.

*hugs* could you keep trying with social services call them at least once a day until they listen? Could you maybe write to your brothers and let them know your worried about them and want to help them?

Their social worker is seeing them next week so I'm going to phone them up then to see what they're going to do. And then if they're still not going to do anything I'm going to keep on trying.
I'm also going to phone them up every time I hear that something that shouldn't happen has happened (if that makes sense). It may take a while but I will make them listen.

sounds like a good plan.
hope things work out ok.

thats good hun, hope verything works out, your such a strong person xx

Thank you so much for all of your support...especially you green.eyes