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peachy_princess 25-04-2008 08:25 PM

Please Help!!
 
Hey guys!

Ok, basically, just broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. He changed and he doesnt think he's strong enough to cope with our relationship as I have a year abroad starting in September. I also found out that he was flirting with another girl, which sucks.
However, I saw him for the first time yesterday and we ended up kissing blah blah blah. Basically it was just like old times.
I'm finding this the hardest thing I've ever had to go through and to top it all off I SIed for the first time in like a year two days ago. I feel like I've hit rock bottom and I feel like my friends are sick of hearing about it. I just can't seem to let go of him. I love him so much and I just can't get over him. I started dating a new guy pretty soon after we broke up but it's just not the same.
I don't know who I am anymore. I'm so confused and my heart is breaking because he doesn't want to make it work. I really just need some advice and support and if anyone out there has had to go through this I would love to know what you did to help get over it because I am dying here, or at least it feels like it!
To top it all off my exams are starting soon too and the only thing in my head right now is him!
Please help!

Thankyou so much!

peachy:kiss: xxx

smoochy_lou 25-04-2008 11:49 PM

hey sweetpea,

I havent been through this situation but i have been through something similar, i found being around people and concentrating on other things helpful, i understand it may be hard to focus when you feel so upset and hurt. the only real healer is time I'm afraid.

I'm osrry i cant help anymore but I'm here for you, if you ever ant to jsut talk and talk and talk until you run out of things tosay, I'll still be here afterwards to give you a giant cyber hug.

You don't have to go through this alone.

take care

Lou xx

88shelz 26-04-2008 04:14 PM

its so much easier to fall in love than fall out of love :(
the only thing i can think of is if you both agree to seperate and aftr your year away see how u both feel about each other. that way you have the choice of being together or going your seperaate ways for good!
at the end of the day, dont let it get in the way of your pllans. you sound like you have alot of potential!!
they do say if you let the one you love go and they come back it was ment to be...and if they dont come back then it was never ment to be!
i hope you will be ok. come back and chat if you need to. xxx

charcoal feathers 26-04-2008 07:36 PM

The only advice i can give is, stop contact with the guy. However hard that may seem right now, it's your best chance of getting over him. If you do see him out and about or whatever, smile, say hi, but leave it at that. Don't kiss him, cuddle him. Because i've been there and it just makes things a million times harder then they were before.
The reason it prolly didn't feel right with the other guy is because it was so soon after you'd broken up with someone who obviously means a lot to you. Be single for a while, find out who you are, what you want, do the things you want to do. You'll find someone else who will feel right for you.
Take care
x

peachy_princess 26-04-2008 08:49 PM

Thankyou so much guys!!
Really appreciate the help and support!It's just so difficult and I find that I'm struggling but I know that I'll get through it. It's really nice to hear someone else's perspectives on things!

Thanks again!!!

peachy :kiss: xxx


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