The Ex (this is really just silly and blah)
 

So me and my ex split up in February.
We went out for a year and 3 months
but had had a "thing" ever since I was 13 (I'm 16 now)
I lost my virgnity to him
He was my best friend
and all that jazz


So likeee it's the end of April now I have a new boyfriend but I'm still finding myself on average crying over my ex every other day. I feel absolutley and utterly pathetic but ah, I just I miss him so much, I'm still very much in love with him and it's just so hard.

He is the reason I'm here today, the reason I controlled my ED the reason I'm self harm free, to not have him here is very hard, I'm slipping back into my old habbits very quickly.

I just ah I don't know what on earth to do...I still have it in my head we'll get back together, that's the only things keeping me sane.

And this new guy, I really like him..But is it fair on him? Should I tell him? Break up with him?


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Aww hun, *hugs*. The first thibg I wanted to say to you, is to not forget that, in fact it's YOU that's the reason you're here today, and YOU that has controlled your ED. I know that your ex must have been very spportive and helped you loads, but at the end of the day you shouldn't forget that YOU acheived this, so pat yourself on the back!
As for the situation with your ex, I think you need to tell the person you're currently seeing that you need some time on your own. It won't do either of you any favours to hold on to this relationship. Then I'd spend a bit of time just being single. Go out and have fun with your mates! If you're adamant that you and your ex should still get together again, then by all means speak to him, but do it after you've spent loads of "me time" on yourself and are totally certain you want to go back. Just becareful and remember there was a reason you split up in the first place. Take care xx

hey
i agree with the above. its you that's achieved all of this.
spend some time being single and working out what you want. go be single and mad. if you still see your ex around maybe try to stay totally away from him for a bit. the distance might help you work out if you miss him as a friend or a lover and whether its a good idea to get back together, then talk to him.
whatever you decide, stay strong for you, you deserve to be happy and healthy
*hugs*

You sounds insanely like me.
Just don't make the mistakes I did and keep hooking up with him for no strings attached stuff (sept you both know it's not really) because you think he'll eventually decide he needs you back.
Doesn't work and you end up really really hurt.
After I broke up with mine we continued "seeing eachother" until he got a new girlfriend (I was basically disposable girlfriend for when he was bored) and then I went out with a quick succession of guys I quite liked but wasn't overly into just to fill the gap.
There was one I might actually have eventually gotten over him for...but he broke up with me after 3 months so I went back to being the girl who gets used.
Now a year after we broke up I've just gotten out of another fling type thing with him and even though I'm determined to stay out of it completely now.
I used to depend on him completely but now I realize I don't need him at all.
It's just unfortunate that every time I see his face (once a week for a few hours) I completely fall in love again.
But hey, I will find someone new and move on.

Stick with it, it might just work.
If it doesn't then you're still gunna have to move on on day.

Sorry, that was all rubbish and hypercritical.
I just typed like a life story you didn't need to read.
But I've spent to long to not post it I guess.
Try to learn from my mistakes.