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I just wanted to know if anyone here like self harms for attention?... like i know that sounds pretty stupid n like is the big cliche thing... people who self harm are just looking for attention but like does anyone.. maybe to express what they cannot say hoping that someone will notice and help you.. kinda like crying out for help.. (there we go .. sorry for cliches)

but ya know what i mean.. hopefully..

Nah I don't cut for attention (actually attention is the think i want least right now)
but you can say that cutting is my personal cry out for help. You see I would like my friends to care about me and be by my side and maybe this is the way to tell them I need some help (does that make sense?)
However I don't want anyone else except my friends and mum to see and make a comment on my scars.

I get what ya mean...
And in a way I guess you can say that I have before, but only to seek attention from certain people, like a "hey, I'm here" sort of thing. Due to my luck, it's everyone else that notices and that's the last thing I want... But yeah, I know what ya mean.

I know what you mean........but no i haven't i keep it hidden,and secret,i can understand where your coming from though as in a cry for help, hoping someone will notice something is wrong x

Yep. Every single time.

Yes.
As well as other reasons.

i guess when i do it it's like i'm shouting for someone to notice me. so i guess that's attention seeking.
it's really strange though because it's not like i'm not noticed or anything, i'm one of the most outspoken and happy people in my group usually.
but i guess trying and faking being happy doesnt help.

xxx

I know some people who walk around showing stuff to people as if to brag and get attention but i always thought it was something you kept to yourself. Ive never told anyone and never will.

for me, it's definately not for attention, but at the same time, i do kinda want some one to notice and help me. sometimes i do want more attention, but that has nothing to do with why i cut.

I understand what you mean but personally I haven't. I guess it's because I'd rather people just left me alone. I just want to be able to deal with stuff my own way. That and I hate having to explain myself cause I never know how to. If that all makes sense =]
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Yeah, I think that those people need to be bopped upside the head, because they change everyone's opinion of people who need help and need a release... They do it to make /everyone/ notice, and usually they didn't have a reason to do it besides that... They just like to act like they're depressed and such.
I'm sorry if anyone thinks I'm referring to them, I'm not, I'm talking about people who wouldn't be on here because why would they want help when there's nothing wrong?
As far as my attention 'seeking' goes, I do it and then realize they'll never know. It's sad to think that, but I suppose that when I'm doing I feel like they would just know, like they could just see it in my face and it would be ok... You know? The only person who has seen them is my boyfriend, and I don't plan on telling anyone else, but still... I don't know, it's hard to explain. :tongue2:

(Sorry for using your post Fairy, it just caught my eye. <3)

Personally, I don't do it for attention at all. I won't let anyone see my cuts and scars and I cringe when people do notice and comment (I normally respond by making up a story about my aunt's cat, who can be a vicious little sod...)

When I eventually plucked up the courage to tell one of my friends, he asked me where I cut. When I pointed to my thighs he said in a very surprised tone of voice "Oh! Not where anyone can see then?!"

I mean come on... I think if I was cutting for attention I wouldn't have bothered keeping it so carefully hidden for five years before telling one person!

Sorry. Little mini rant there. I'll shut up now *skulks away quietly*

yeah... i do mean like even just getting that one little bit of attention from a close friend or a family member... if you think you are on the brink and do realise something needs to be done wouldnt you like just reveal a bit in hope that that 1 person sees and helps you...

not like omg look at me ..attention seeking.. but from a close friend if you cant exactly tell them in words

i dunno..

just thought id ask

Hi i have to just speak for myself.
I dont think i need any help - i recon im just used to it now and i'll just keep on going forever - i dont see it. I never want anyone to know - someone accidentaly found out on me and i went mad i know they cant reveal my secret to anyone because it was a doctor when i was ill with something else. So to me no its my secret and im keeping it and i do it for my own reasons so why should i share those with anyone else?? They are my emotions and feelings and i want them.

I don't do it for attrention. My social worker knows about it, my coach and my friend. I told my coach after my social worker said I couldn't come back anymore because I was too much for her to handle. I told my friend because my coach said it would be a good thing. He's known my friend for a very long time, longer then I have. Anyways, at first I would talk to my coach about eveything, but I've been hiding more and more from them becaue I don't want to worry them.

I don't realy understand how someone could get the idea that cutting solely for attention would be a good idea.

When i cut my arms, it's for attention. Meaning that i want someone to notice and either help me, sympathise with me or be afraid of me.

When i cut my legs, it is not for attention and i hide it well.

Being 100% honest. I've wanted to cut for attention in the past. But I've never done it.

Not for a kind of, Hey everybody look at me, woooh! kind of thing.
But when I've been at my absolute lowest and I've been close to suicide and I've wanted sombody, anybody to realise that I'm not ok, that I'm really really not ok.
Then I have thought about just "accidently" showing sombody a cut.
Not my family, maybe just like a friend or like one of my tutors in college.
I thought about it, just like rolling up my sleeve a bit by "accident" and see if anybody notices, but in the end I always chickened out.

More just a ; please help me, rather than, please look at me.
But like I said, I never did it.

I couldn't stand my family seeing cuts or scars. They know I do it, but I always, always keep covered up around them.
I used to cut on my legs for the reason that I didn't want them to notice or see what I was doing.
I can't stand seeing the looks on there faces when they see marks on me. Urgh, makes me feel disgusting and stupid. Because I know they think it's stupid.

I never have cut for attention but I can understand why someone would. Saying that when attention does come my way, most recently from my boyfriend noticing scars, I find it such a relief that perhaps I can have someone to talk to about this.

I SI not as a way to have attention brought to me, but as a release. Usually the people I get attention from when I do SI are my close friends and my therapist.

There really shouldn't be such a huge ugly stigma attached to this - if someone cuts for attention, they have a problem.
Someone who is so desperate for recognition that they're willing to slash their wrists for it is not someone who automatically deserves the opposite of that; and to give 'oh so-and-so only cuts for attention' as justification to shrug-off said person, is probably more immature than the behaviour of the person they're disregarding and choosing to forget in the first place. They're still cutting themselves up for heaven's sake.

In reply to your question, I cut for varying reasons but the most violent acts of self-harm have always been where I've felt disgusted at myself and taken my anger out on myself. I do cut for attention when I feel no one really cares about how I feel, and also to warn people that I can't cope being told that I'm stupid - so please don't insult me otherwise I'll probably cut deeper. People seem to think words don't hurt; sometimes it seems the only way I can show how emotionally hurt I am is to portray it through number of slashes on my arms and body; I think a lot of people who self-harm will relate to that no matter how bloodied I may look on the outside, the inside hurts much, much more.

Compared to how I feel emotionally, physical scars barely 'scratch the surface', so to speak..