need advice
 

I think im falling for my best friend. He's a guy, and im a girl. He knows about my cutting. He helps me soo much,ive never met anyone like him, he's amazing. he understands me completely. He told me the other day that he wanted to be more than friends. I'd been thinking things like this for a couple of weeks before he told me, but i told myself to stop it and it was just me. But now i know he feels the same way, i don't know what to do. I can't loose his friendship and i love him to pieces, but it could be more. Also, he is a year and seven months younger than me(year 10), im 16 (year 11), i really dont know whether thats just wrong or what? please help.

lily
xx

The nice attitude to have is "if you get him him you get him - and if you don't you don't" - and then keep to an even pace without giving too much of yourself out of worry and need. You always need to posses yourself first. So go slow and keep it light and easy and go a step at a time (and not too many steps). Your best bet at a good relationship means you want to be best friends with the person and not just flying into space with poetic hormones. Time and respect brings out what passion and haste can't. If you feel a pull on your solar plexis to "do something - anything!" then that's almost always a bad time to do anything. The best and smartest moves come when your kind of still and not caught up in your own machinery. Giving into pulls and panics involves conditionings and undercurrents that can wreck even good things unawares.

It's not wrong to feel these feelings. In fact, it's quite natural. Sometimes dating your best friend can be wonderful and he could end up being your dream guy. But be careful. If it fails, you could end up losing your best friend. That's what happened to me. We dated for 5 years and got engaged. But we broke up because he was abusive. But that's another story. Dating your best friend could be amazing. He already knows you and knows all about your problems, so there's no awkward period in the begining. I say go for it!!!

i think you should go for it!! and i agree at school a year feels like a huge gap but its not at all!! i think sometimes the best relationships are when you have got to know each other well as friends first...good luck with whatever you decide! XX