Indecent propositions.
 

Where do I start?....

I know most of my boyfriend's friends, the ones closest to him. We all hang out all the time...

Months ago, one of his closest friends called me at 5 am and told me he was depressed and had just got off from work and no one was awake and so he asked me to go for a ride with him. This guy has a girlfriend, whom I know, and he's my boyfriend's friend. I didn't think anything of it. I accepted to go for a ride with him and we talked, he talked about what was depressing him. I thought he just needed a friend to listen to him and no one else was available so early in the morning. Like I said, I didn't think anything of it.

Then yesterday morning I recieve a call from him. He says he's depressed again and needs to talk to someone so I listen. He tells me about something he did which he shouldn't have done, basically like a confessional. I try to give him advice even though I've never been on his shoes.
Then he confesses to me that he's attracted to me. I'm not too surprised by this because frankly, I had my suspicions. I ask him why he's attracted to me when he's got such a beautiful girlfriend. He just says he is.

We keep talking and he takes it up a notch and confesses that the morning of our stupid little ride months ago (what I mentioned above) he had actually planned to ask me to have sex with him. He told me that that night he didn't want to talk or go for a ride, he wanted to **** me. Now, by this I was shocked.

After I regain my composure I tell him I feel stupid because I really liked him as a friend and I had thought his friendship was a sincere one without any ulterior motives. He apologizes and after a bit more chat we hang up.
Half an hour later he called again and asked me if I felt the same way about him, I told him no. He sort of didn't believe me and asked me if I was sure. Then he asked me if I would get with him just once, if we could have sex just the once. I told him I wasn't attracted to him, that I loved my boyfriend (his friend!) and that even if I was single I wouldn't have sex with him "Just the once" like he wanted to. He kept pushing the issue saying..."Are you sure, maybe just like...one time, maybe, no? You're sure, and you're not attracted to me?" When I made it perfectly clear that the answer was no and would always be no he told me this "I'd appreciate it if you didn't tell Jack (my boyfriend) about this". I told him alright and hung up...but I knew that I would have to tell my boyfriend. After considering the situation I realized that I owe more loyalty to my partner than to this guy whom I thought was a friend. I normally do keep people's secrets but this time that secret was a complete and total disrespect towards the man I love so I decided I had to tell my boy and that same night I did.

As I type this my boyfriend, the "friend" here mentioned and another friend of theirs are getting together at a bar to talk about this issue. My boyfriend expects him to come clean with it all on his own...but knowing my boy I know he'll want to hit him and fight. I'm nervous as to what will happen...but also feel sort of guilty because this guy who propositioned me is part of a group of old friends of my boyfriend and I'm afraid that if my boy stops talking to him the other friends won't talk to my boy in return and thus the whole bunch will be broken up. Also, what if my boyfriend wast to keep being this guy's friend and ignore what he tried to do? I don't want him to do that, I'd feel disrespected and unloved by my boy if he forgave him...because in my opinion my boyfriend shouldn't take his friend wanting to have sex with me lightly. In fact, I think he should stop talking to him altogether, you know? 'cause that's not a real friend, but what if he doesn't stop talking to him?

Oh, I'm worried and confused. If he still wants to be this guy's friend I will feel very, very bad. Like I'm not important or precious or even wanted.
Do you think, if they keep being friends, I should tell my boy to decide between his back-stabbing "friend" or his loyal and faithful girl?
This is such a mess.

Good for you for telling your boyfriend. You shouldn't have to keep that guy's secrets, especially if he's plotting against your boyfriend, who is supposedly his 'friend'.

To be honest with you though, don't expect him to entirely cut off his friendship because of this. Especially if he's known this guy for a long time, it'll be hard for him to sever all ties just because of one incident where the friend started thinking with his dick instead of his brain. I know my little brother still hangs out with his best friend, even though the friend slept with two of his past girlfriends. It seems totally idiotic, but it happens.

That doesn't mean he doesn't care about you though. If he knows what's good for him, he should take special care to keep you away from that guy!