People bringing me down
 

I know a few people who have mental health problems (know them from a drop in centre) And generally we get on good. A couple of them I call friends.
But one or two of them I find really get me down. They are always talking negatively. Every conversation ends up getting on about problems, many of which they bring on themselves. Like men probs and stuff.

It really gets me down to hear endless negative talk.
I have come home today feeling really down and worn out.
I don't wanna distance myself from her as she is a good nice person but I don't want to keep feeling pulled down.

I don't want to hurt her by saying she is too negative.
A group of us tend to go to a cafe after the drop in closes at 5pm and they don't like her coming as she is always negative but I'm feeling guilty for avoiding her as they do also.
I feel torn between it all.

How can I stop feeling pulled down? It is easy online as I don't have to read it. I can stop at any point.

if this is effecting everyone and not just you then perhas you could all sort of work out something to say togehter (as you know her personally and know what will upset her etc) to let her know that her negativity is getting everyone down.
this person may not realise the effect it is havn.
jst say to her that you realise she is having a hard time...
that you understand she isnt feeling very positve but it would help if she was to be more positive. ask if there is anything to help her feel better. explain that when ur in drop in u go to try forget the negatives and that its ment to be positive.
(sorry im not good with the advice tonite...i know what i mean though and i hope u do too :S) basically just stress positivity to her. xx

Thank you.
I'm gonna speak to the staff there tomo as I know she will go to them after I speak to her and say whatever as I know she has spoken to them as she thinks we avoiding her. Some people are.
I'm worried about it as I'm not good at this sort of thing but I am feeling guilty about not inviting her places so I need to talk about it. And soon.