Girlfriend stuff -What u think?
 

my and my girlfriend have been going out for 8 months.

well...

friday, her mum went away for the night to see her brother.
so she asked a friend to go stay (insted of coming to mine like she normaly does at weekends).
i thort alright just a 1 off she wants some time with her friend.

nd she said she would talk to me on the phone or on msn, nd i was baby sitting that night nd she just totaly ignored me that night, even blocked me on msn for abit, ended up having a go at her, she blamed her friend which it wasnt her as i talk to her friend nd she never does anything like that and also i asked y she blocked me and her friend said shes up stairs... so im sure if it was her that did it she would of said then and there.
1st she started out with she didnt as well.. then i said yes u did cos i signed in on her msn to check, she was even shouting at me saying she didnt... (yes maybe praranoid or whatever but i just had to check since she went off as soon as i said hi)

well... today she said that her mums goin away soon again for 2 nights or something nd said she will/might have her friend over again... so i said "oh u not gunna ask me this time" and she just said "no" right away.
then i said how come nd she said cos she wants to spend it with her friend. so i asked well the both of us can be there... still just said no nd then said "wont all fit in my bed" well... im sure her friend wouldnt mind being on the floor. personaly i wouldnt mind eather... just wanna be there as insted id just be bored at home doing nothing but on pc nd msn.

also after that she says that her friend is busy for 6 weeks or something like that so she cant go to some place with her, her mum and her mums boyfriend... (think it for like a week i dunno)
but she didnt even ask me...
(and no not a money problem)


i rarely go to her house (she seems to like being at mine nd i kinda just got used to it nd rarely going to hers)
i think i been to hers about 6 times... stayed over about 4 times. (we live far away around 30min drive) nd none of us can drive yet (i will be learning soon tho)

well i dont get it, i dont see y she never asks me to do stuff with her such as go to hers nd stuff like that or see her family. shes met most of mine... well all really apart from the 1s i rarely see.
she has talk to me about that a little... but since im never at hers i dont get the chance.

she did once ask me to go bowling with her, her mum nd her mums boyfriend but ended up not going as she never brought it up again but i said i would like to go nd that i also like bowling.


just woundering what u lot think about it?
i mean im not like jellous of her friend or anything like that, i have nothing agenst her friend eather, we talk abit on msn as well. get on fine well i think anyway.
but its just that she never asks me to do stuff with her + her family.

since its bothering me i feel as if i should tell her as i started to just tell her/talk to her about stuff that bothers me, even if it does hurt her feelings, as it hurts mine keeping it inside and atleast can sort it out.

i agree you should tell her how shes making you feel. i dont think the friend is the issue at all here, shes using him/her to hide the issue. i think shes not communicating very well with you how she feels about the relationship. it may be something that could be sorted out easily.
either way, the situation isnt making you happy. and you should try to do something about it. perhaps ask her if theres anything thats bothering her?
thats just my thoughts... perhaps im wrong.

Definitely talk to her - that is the only way you'll find out what is going on with her. Do you two normally not communicate this much or has it changed recently? Maybe she is just going through some stuff and that is why she's pushing you away (I do that). You might not like what she has to say but it's probably better that you know.

I'm always here if you need someone to talk to :)

she isnt pushing me away,
we spend mostly all weekends to gether (she stays at mine all weekend)

we do talk but rarely about relationship stuff :notsure:

shes coming over tomorrow, will talk to her about it then im not bothered if i dont like what she says or not just wanna know y :blink:

hmm. maybe her and her mom dont get along all that well? or she feels embarassed/ashamed of something or someone in her home? and she just doesnt want it to be exposed or you to see how things are at home?
Im not implying theres terrible things going on at her house or anything like that..maybe shes just embarassed of something silly that really shouldnt matter?

hope that made sense.

well,
i asked her about y she doesnt invite me and then she just goes "well u can come then if u want" and i was saying no cos i dont want to have to invite myself to urs when ur mums away...
then she said fine ill ask u and did then i just said ok sure then.

now today shes brought it up nd asked which day it was that shes going (day of the week she knew the date) and i said it and she then said "me and my friend gunna have a well good time...
so i went well u invited me... then she goes "yea well i just want it to be me and her cos i like hardly get to see her"

and also...
shes doing stuff till wednesday night so i wont be able to see her till thursday so i was thinking that id go hers thursday night (her mum pick me up from work on way back)
then stay there till friday or saturday then im off on holiday on the sunday...
but shes saying no cos its to much planning...
so if i dont do that then i wont see her till the saturday or whatever that i get back...
and ill be tired all saturday then got work sunday so wont get to see her much :-/ and she just keeps saying no its to much planning to it all.

will talk to her later or something :(

How does she act when you two are around one another?

shes fine with me she cuddles up to me when watching tv for abit then her sholder starts to hurt so i cuddle up to her insted.

she randomly gives me hugs nd kisses through out the day. and if im doing some DIY (house is in need of decorating so every now nd then i paint a door or fix some thing) and she then gives me a hug nd a kiss saying well done/it looks nice.

we get on fine...

i think about the thing where me going away nd her coming to see me before i go is sorted. shes coming thursday till saturday.

also it was my birthday today so got a card of her nd it says i love u and all the normal stuff but then it says "my heart belongs to u" not in her writing but she probably does mean it as she was wanting me to read it after she had gone.

also the thing where shes going away has now been canceled by her mum... nd they're going away a different day but shes going with them for 2 days or something. just over the weekend. ill just moan at her to get credit or give her £5 to only spend on me :satisfied:

Perhaps she just wants to spend some time alone/with her friend? I know it seems pretty simple, but you can't expect her to want to spend all her time with you, or even talk to you all the time, so maybe she just blocked you because she didn't want you talking to her at that particular time, and should you really be signing in on her msn to check up on her? I don't think thats fair.

Let her spend some time with her friend. Its her house, its up to her who she has stay with her. I know when I look after my mothers house I'd rather have a few friends over than just my boyfriend.

I think you should maybe just asl her what she wants from the relationship? Yes i think that if she just wants time alone/a friend then it's nothing bad, every person needs a break and maybe this is her way of saying that she just wants abit of 'me' time. On the other hand i can see how you can be getting frustrated with all this, and want to know what's going on.
I hope all things work out okay.
Take care.
Chloe. xx

ill just throw in hints for wanting to stay at hers for once insted of her being at mine all the time.

since im going away sunday she seems to be abit upset about me going, well when she was going home the other day my mum said she looked upset when my mum told her mum...

nd today she goes "will u miss me, probably not" and i was saying "of course ill miss u ill email u every day"

so i think shes really upset about me going, nd she was kinda shouting at me when i asked what she will be upto while im away, i asked "y dont u go see ur friend" (the 1 she had over that night)
nd she was shouting saying "u dont think iv thort of that!" and i just said i was only saying...

i did say i would like for her to come pick me up from the airport nd get my mum to drive her... nd she just said "well it wont be a surpise then".
i dont mind tho but i think i might be getting back in the morning nd she wont be able to drive her as she will be at work. will have to find out :P

But I think she's made it quite obvious that she doesn't want you to stay at hers, for whatever reason. Dropping hints won't help much, if you've got a problem with it then ask her outright. I take that you're both quite young, but I know that I prefered to go to my ex boyfriends house than have him at mine (I live with friends) because he works during the day and it meant I had time to myself, and I could have a lie in without being woken up by people getting ready for work or playing music and stuff. Also, my bedroom is always a complete mess!