Attraction is triggering?
 

Has anyone ever found that romantic attraction can be severley triggering? At it's worst, when having to meet with new people, if someone's less intimidating than others, not even romantically attractive, it can be a little triggering.

I'm pretty bad at social situations, to the point of minor panic attacks when really low.

It's starting to really become a problem...it's too conflicting; the moment you feel..something which is a good, but strong feeling, even if it inspires **** loads of guilt...it's bad...if that makes sense...It's kind of hard to explain...

Like trying to mix oil and water almost...But needing to cut is stronger...yet the attraction won't go away...

I'd already have weird feeling in relation to intimacy, but nothing this...I don't know...peircingly intense...

I've not had the most joyful or romantic experiences, I'll admit, and it's my fault completley that things ****ed up the way they did, like seriousley ****ed up...so it's not exactly unexplainable...

I was just wondering about any way to distract yourself...or just kind of cope with it when you're really not expecting or prepared for it...

I often feel the urge to cut when meeting new people and developing new relationships. I've never really put two and two together before, but it's often how I feel! I'm sorry I have no advice, but I completely understand the feeling.

I think my primary concern with forming new rromantic relationships in relation to my self harm, is that i'm kind of limted now to where i can do it without him noticing. Ive just a got a new bf, who is very understanding but being really down right now its making it really hard to balence the urge to cut with not upsetting him. its confusing. not sure if that relevent :s

you can always look for all the pheromone colognes coming out