MAJOR MANIPULATION....
 

this is the situation....my brother wanted me to buy him beer. i said no because hes just been in legal trouble over alcohol. plus i know the dangers of it and he drinks alot already and hes underage by american standards.

well....he tells me if i wont buy it then he'll just go out with his friends and party.

this put me in an awkward situation. my mother is rarely here anymore because she's getting married, so im kinda his mom figure.

i didnt know what to do. my conscience would not let me buy him alcohol. ive seen him drunk. ive seen him go to jail. i just couldnt do it.

but now hes gone out and god knows what will happen!!!!

so i get to sit here and worry that hes drinking and driving or whatnot.

and i think...damnit if i would have just bought it, he would have stayed here to drink it!!!

please tell me not to guilt trip over this because im going to punish the hell outta myself if something happens to him.

ok...end of nervous breakdown for now.
thanks.

*reassuring snuggle* You are his mum figure but you're not his mum. Your actual mum should be sorting stuff like this out, maybe you should talk to her? You did the right thing by saying no to him. He's a minor but he's not a child. Whatever he's up to now is his decision.

he might have stayed to drink it....or he might have decided to go out for more or go to his friend's anyway.

this is the lesser evil, only he is commiting a crime, if you bought beer you would be committing a crime too.

leave it to his own conscience, if anything goes wrong he made that decision. maybe try and get him to talk to a counsellor he is obviously having issues with something. mand x

if he wants to do it hes gonna do it anyways. You tell him you wont buy it and the risks if he does and that hes old enough to take his own responsibility. Like Touch says you are not his mother.

you guys are so right.
he is NOT my responsibility!!!!
and today he has proven to be the biggest bastard in the world!!!
he didnt get drunk last night but he sure as hell let me have it this morning.

first thing....he started in on me about keith!!!!
i barely had my eyes open and he was degrading me, telling me what kind of mother i am etc.

i WILL NOT deal with his **** anymore!!!!!
these people are driving me mad. i HAVE to get out of here.

my mother is coming home today and im just going to sit her down and tell her NO MORE SPENDING MY MONEY!!!!

I HAVE TO GET AWAY FROM THIS FAMILY OR I WILL DIE.