Dealing with the Mother-in-law
 

ok as it says i need to deal
she hates me

the speech i have prepared so far

I feel I need to be honest with you
i'm not working at the moment
ive suffered a relapse
and i am back in hospital

i feel i need to tell you this
because if i dont Craig is carry this alone'
and for both of us our priority is Craig
you have bigger worries as his mother
you want to p[rotect him from all suffering
mine is a guilt protection
i8 would love for him not to deal with me
i have offered him outs
but he has chosen to stay

i feel we need to work together
i need to protect him from the extremes of my illness
but i would like you to be there for what he faces

you may hate me for putting youyr son in this position
but for me i need to look after me although i don't want to give Craig more stress than he can deal with
so in my opionion no matter how much you may disapprove of what im forcing on your son
i feel we need to work together'
you are a strong woman
i would like to be
so together we can save him the anguish of what im going through

Could you email it - I have no ral advice just hope it goes ok

That's a really well-worded letter. If she doesn't accept it then it's obviously just gonna take a long time for that woman to be cordial. Stay strong, and good luck.

Perfect - honest, genuine, from the heart and written with love for those around you - no one could ask for more.

Do try to send it or say it. It is so worth taking the effort to have a good relationship with your mom in law.
When I got sober, my mom in law was urging my husband to divorce me. Now she and I are friends. Her name is Rosemary and I get to call her Rosemom.