Ex Begging to Keep Living Together
 

My ex and I are currently still living together until the lease ends in September. I have been paying for everything while he has been unemployed for over 3 years. I broke up with him in the beginning of November and gave him the clear timeframe that I'll be moving out on my own when the lease ends. He now has been panicking and begging me to stay living with him for another lease year, saying that if we don't live together he'll be homeless. He started a small business to create D&D content and stuff but has made no money with it yet, he has been talking about applying for disability for years but never did it. I'm completely over this situation and I'm really looking forward to loving alone, but I care about him so much and don't want him to literally be homeless. If he gets a job and actually works he'll be able to support himself (he has joint custody of his son too) but it's like not an option in his mind. He has some form of agoraphobia and makes excuses for not being able to work from home. Every time I stand firm and say I'm moving out on my own he gets angry and yells at me, insults me, is mean, and blames me for him not taking care of himself and for him not applying for disability (because I didn't fill out the application for him). It's insane. Then he'll apologize and act pathetic and manipulate me that way. I can't stand it and all the guilt -tripping, but it's working? I'm constantly reconsidering what I should do. It feels like it would almost be easier to just give in than to keep having the same argument over and over. Hellllpppp!

Definitely sounds like you need to stick to the boundary you set and that moving out on your own is the right thing to do. He's got enough time now to start looking into alternative options, and it's also not on you to help him do so.

Not to be harsh, but maybe letting him dig his own grave so to speak might be the kindest way to help him. If he has you doing everything for him, he’ll never learn to be independent. I would keep reiterating that you’re moving out at the end of your lease and keep saying that he can’t live with you now you’re not together and if he doesn’t do anything about it, its on him and not you. I know its hard to deal out ‘tough love’ and basically abandon him, but that might be the kick up the backside he needs to sort himself out.