Where should new 'Serious Space to Chat' thread live
 

Following recent discussions it has been raised it might be good to have a new thread for serious chat to avoid more triggering /serious stuff ending up in the I need a distraction thread in General Chat.

Where would people like to see this thread?

Note: Jenna there is not a lesbians option as I thought threads can't really be put inside lesbians. Obvious MOoAR lesbians are always wanted.

I uh, didn’t know I could do that. This is the worst thing I’ve ever done certainly as a mod and maybe as a person

Makes me wonder if we really need a new thread if we can't even decide where to put the thing...

From a mod perspective, if you put it in MH and then someone discussed abuse or suicide or ED shenanigans, people might report it for being inappropriate for the board and that would be valid. However if it's already in serious, the only potential reports could be that it's actually not super-serious and could go elsewhere but I would just ignore any reports on that because it's only one thread so it's not like it's taking up too much space and it means there is the option to be super-serious at any point.

Jenna has been bad and it has led to 20 people wanting more lesbians rather than voting on where the thread should go.

:whistling:

Tbf, that is an absolutely ridiculous power for a mod to have. When would you ever legitimately need to be able to edit poll numbers??

I would like to point out that 1. Moar Lesbianzz wasn't an option until Jenna added it. 2. Sources tell me all 20 votes for lesbians are a certain person

Maybe if a poll got trolled???

Does seem Sus though.

Did you make up 20 people? I'm confused.

Anyway, what you said makes sense that maybe it should go in serious. Although I voted that I don't think we need a new thread.

Edit: this was aimed at Jenna

Back to point of the post. I can see that serious might be better I just thought as Mental health gets used less it might be more appropriate so it doesn't keep pushing people's main serious threads off front page sort of thing?

I just saw a lot of conflicting opinions and thought this would be a good place to discuss. I see your point though

That's also a good point, Jen. (your post before last)

My brain! *walks away*

Lindsay, yes, apparently I can just go in and write whatever numbers I want? To be clear, beyond silliness with lesbians I would never actually mess with a poll!

Jen, a) not a lesbian, b) I see your point actually. Completely up to you guys, either is fine, feel free to go with the majority :)

I'm not convinced a thread like that is a great idea, honestly. The whole point of RYL is for people to post for support, we don't need a specific thread for it, and honestly I can see it turning into something of a competition. It's not like serious topics can't be briefly touched upon in the distraction thread and then people can direct to RVs or support threads. A whole thread could mean replies get missed and people who need support aren't getting it.

Totally valid. I am not sure either hence making a thread to discuss thread and placing rather than just making thread

Yeah, I think the discussion is a good one :) I can understand why it's a compelling idea, but maybe there would need to be a few ground rules - potentially along the lines of it not being the place for major crisis support? I'm trying to work out what that would look like, but I guess it might need to be established as the issues are found.

So for example if you're in crisis or need targeted support with something, that would be the time to make a thread, but if you were feeling low and needed to talk about a bad day or a difficult appointment etc then the general thread is there? A bit like the old 'I want to post a picture but it doesn't deserve a whole thread thread'.

I'd also suggest that it may be better in General Support than MH or Serious.

Hmm, I'm confusing myself now!

Maybe in the I need a distraction thread we need to get better at encouraging each other to ask for help on the boards/in real life?

Initially I felt like a new thread was a good idea, but thinking about it, I dont think a thread in serious is the right way to go, I always feel like I'm not struggling "enough" for it to be serious and so would be much less inclined to post there.

However, if we're posting in the "I need a distraction" thread, we should be asking for distraction directly? rather than general chats in that thread? Unless the general chats IS the distraction?

Hmmmmmm.

Also, MOAR LEZBIANZ

General chattering is the distraction in my opinion.

But there are times where I don't want to join in with general chattiness... but maybe just want to exclaim that "everything sucks!" without asking for support as such or needing whole thread about it... but then again, when that happens I usually don't want to say anything at all...

This is a far more complicated topic than I first thought and therefore I have not voted. But maybe it's worth a shot with some clear definitions of what should go where? If it works then that's all good. If not, the thread just falls off the boards right?