my cousins
 

my cousins have never been through abuse by their parents at all there home life was perfect compared to mine they didnt get called names!!! yelled at!!! made to feel worthless worser then dirt!!!!! they didnt get hit!!!!! my home life was hell but they talk **** like they know what happened and they understand when they just dont!!!!!!!!

I'm sorry you had such a difficult home life and that you feel your cousins don't understand. It is worth bearing in mind though that just like your cousins don't know what you went through, you don't know what went on behind closed doors in your cousins house. So maybe don't assume their home life was perfect!

I'm so sorry that they didn't believe you, that's really unfair. Do you have a lot of contact with them?

I still stand by my statement though that you don't know for sure what their home life was like.

somewhat.....

ok

And do you want to have contact with them?

...no.... but they have said that no matter what they do to me they are blood relatled...... so even if i never want anything to do with them they will always talk to me and bother me.....

And why do you have to reply?

This has been bugging me for a while. It really sounds like you're dismissing the things they've been through/are going though. Anorexia and gang rape are very serious things. And I am very sorry you've been through a lot and are struggling but maybe you shouldn't dismiss other's problems so easily. It is not a competition.

^this!

If for whatever reason you don't want to have contact with them, then you don't have to. You could block them on whatever means they use to contact you. If you wanted to explain beforehand that you were cutting contact because you can't get past them not believing you about the abuse from your father then that would be kinder than just blocking them, but you don't even have to do that if you don't want to!

they wont stop unless i do reply...

im sorry

Sometimes you have to be brave and ignore them. Block them and if they turn up at your group home tell the staff that in no uncertain terms you don't want to see them. It will take several weeks for them to get the hint and they may use emotional blackmail to get a response but by responding you may be adding fuel to the fire.

ill try..... but i dont know if i can....

Hopefully you can ignore them as this seems to me the best way forward. I get that it's easier said than done though.

i'll try but like you said its easyier said than done but i'll try

How are you getting on with this?

they tryed to contact me but i stoped them.......

Well done! Have they attempted to contact you since then?

thank you... <3
yeah..

Would you consider blocking them so that they can’t contact you?

i would but i cant.....