im so stupid, i don't know what to do!
 

i'm such an idiot!

to cut a very long story short, there was this guy, a guy who i'd liked for 4 years, and i ended up having sex with him. afterwards we cuddled and talked, he said some amazing things to me, and like a fool i believed him.

the next day i saw my best mate, she wanted to tell me something, she was seeing a guy, and had been for a month, and it turns out it was the same guy from the night before. she showed me txts on her fone that are the same as what he said to me that night.

i feel so gulity, and i want to tell her what an idiot he is, if he's sleeping with other people, but she'll think its all a plan so i can have him all to myself, she gets really paranoid.

whenever i see her he's always with her and i don't know what to do.

i dont want to see her get hurt but i dont want to lose my best friend cuz i slept with her boyfriend!

help :crazy:

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Hey, this is not your fault, and at that point you had no reason not to believe him. She's your best friend and I know you want to protect her from getting hurt. I think you can only sit down with her and try to explain that it happened before you knew she was going out with him and that you don't want her to get hurt by him any more? Don't pressure her to leave him, because thats her choice.

A boy should not come between you. Sorry I can't help much.

Take care

friends are more inprotant then boys. talk to her and explain that u didn't know that it was her boyfriend and tell her what he is like

it isn't your fault for anythin.
at the end of the day it is her choice
hope u get it sorted

It wasn't your fault, you weren't to know! You need to talk to her though, because the longer this goes on the harder it's going to get. Also - what if her boyfriend is sleeping with someone else? She's only going to get hurt in the end. I know it will be hard, but when you've sorted things out things will get better. Good luck! Nat. xo

I think you should try and talk to her about it. You don't have to tell her everything about it though. As other people have said, it's definitely not your fault. You had no idea what type of person he really was. Hopefully, your friend wil understand. Good luck.

Give me that dude's address. I'll take care of it ;)

In all seriousness, you should tell your friend. If she's truly your best friend, she will understand and accept that it was not your fault. At first she will probably be angry and upset (anybody would be), and in her anger she might say and do some things she doesn't mean, but if she's a true friend she will eventually recognize that you did her a huge favor by revealing her boyfriend's true identity, and that you are the best friend she has.

thanks guys, but its easier said than done!

i know what i should do, i just need to be told so i do it!

i'm seeing her ater so i'll keep you posted

*hugs*

Eventually, she'll find out and it's going to be worse.
Tell her immediately, and insist that it happened before she told you about him.
It's not your fault, it's HIS fault.
And if she's really paranoid, insist you don't want him at all.
I'm not sure how it's going to go, but you can't keep this for yourself at any rate.