Frustrated and tired
 

I will try to shorten this up. Almost 5 yrs ago I moved to another state for love/relationship. I left my parents and a sibling and took my child from her grandparents. Its bothered me and just gets worse. I love my spouse and want us all to relocate to my home. I have no friends here, he has some friends but no family here. His reason for not relocating is his job that he's been with for a long time. This company has 2 other "factories" where i want to be. He says they won't let you transfer I was recently told that as long as that specific branch had an opening you could transfer. I can't tell him that I've heard without putting someone in the middle. I just miss my family and friends and think that I, and quite probably him, would be happier. What do I do??

I would say tell him what you've told us, but obviously I don't know how he would react or your situation. Let him know how much you need your family. Maybe he will understand. You clearly care for his needs, but it's okay to care for yours too.

I have told him in great detail how much this means to me. He hasn't been disrespectful about it but at the same time he has made it clear in so many words that if I decided to go, he wouldn't follow. He likes to point out that his family is also out of town and in the opposite direction so he would be further away. My response was that they would be the only family out of town and we could go visit as much as he needed to. I took the only grandchild from my parents away while his whole family is together so his parents get to see their grandchildren. While its a very similar situation, I can't seem to make him see that they are different.

I wish I knew how to help, sorry. All I can say is keep trying to let him know how you feel. It must be a difficult situation to be in. Sorry that isn't useful. I hope someone else here can suggest something more useful. Keep posting here though. Letting it out can be very helpful.

Thank you. It helps. Keeps me from letting it out in a negative way

I understand. Sometimes I want to scream but I guess it's a good thing to take a deep breath and to speak to someone impartial.
I noticed you are new to ryl, so welcome to the boards. I'm Lorraine. We are a good bunch and it's a good place to vent, ask and share advice.

Thank you! I'm Amanda. I just started googling forums, thinking maybe someone has magic answers ;) or at least I can speak freely.

Hi Amanda. I'm afraid we don't have magic answers but you can speak freely. Take care.