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1924 12-06-2015 06:47 PM

Is it a good or bad idea to let my daughter visit her mom in jail?
 
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griddlebone 12-06-2015 10:30 PM

I think it's entirely down to the type of person your daughter is, so is she pretty resilient or do her emotion affect her in a negative way, is she the type of girl who would talk to you if something were bothering her or she wasn't comfortable or does she bottle things up?

If you feel like you could take her there and know she would talk to you if she were worried/upset then I don't see the harm in letting her visit. I guess to prepare her you could look online and see what other parents have done?You could find out the procedure for visiting at that particular prison and then talk it through with your daughter. It might also be good to let her know that if at any time she wasn't comfortable with the situation she is allowed to leave so she doesn't feel trapped/under pressure.

Ultimately it's up to you what you do but I think 15 is probably old enough to have a conversation with her about what she thinks about it.

1924 19-06-2015 10:32 PM

Main problem I have is she will see the jail environment which could be unpleasant,. She will see her mom in jail clothes and other inmates. Also, I hear they might search you before going in

sherlock holmes 20-06-2015 09:02 AM

Has she expressed a wish to visit her mum in prison? If yes then I think it's important. I do think 15 years old is generally old enough to handle visiting a prison environment, but it does depend on the personality of your daughter.

It might help her process what's happening to see where her mum is, and I guess it could form part of an education about the judicial process in your country and what happens if the law is broken.

If she does visit then as she is a minor I expect the visit *could* happen in a more private room to prevent her from seeing too much of the prison and other prisoners. As Auror said all of the prisoners who receive visitors will have been cleared for that so there shouldn't be any incidents occurring.

Yes, I expect she will be searched as she goes in but it won't be too invasive. It will likely entail showing her bag, emptying her pockets, having a quick pat from the prison officer and maybe a metal detector being waved over her.

As I say it depends on your daughter, but as a whole I don't think kids should be protected too much from life, consequences and especially what goes on in their family.

Does your wife also want her daughter to visit?

1924 20-06-2015 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Night Circus (Post 3931576)
Has she expressed a wish to visit her mum in prison? If yes then I think it's important. I do think 15 years old is generally old enough to handle visiting a prison environment, but it does depend on the personality of your daughter.

It might help her process what's happening to see where her mum is, and I guess it could form part of an education about the judicial process in your country and what happens if the law is broken.

If she does visit then as she is a minor I expect the visit *could* happen in a more private room to prevent her from seeing too much of the prison and other prisoners. As Auror said all of the prisoners who receive visitors will have been cleared for that so there shouldn't be any incidents occurring.

Yes, I expect she will be searched as she goes in but it won't be too invasive. It will likely entail showing her bag, emptying her pockets, having a quick pat from the prison officer and maybe a metal detector being waved over her.

As I say it depends on your daughter, but as a whole I don't think kids should be protected too much from life, consequences and especially what goes on in their family.

Does your wife also want her daughter to visit?



My daughter said she would like to visit one day and my wife said bring her if she wants to. My concerns are solely the environment

EyelinerAndCigarettes 20-06-2015 06:56 PM

I'd suggest ringing the prison & finding out what the arrangements are for visiting minors?

1924 23-06-2015 03:06 AM

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Originally Posted by EyelinerAndCigarettes (Post 3931629)
I'd suggest ringing the prison & finding out what the arrangements are for visiting minors?

They aren't given special rooms.


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