Spending way too much time in bed
 

I spend way too much time in bed when I don't have something to get up for. It's often if I'm a bit tired from the previous day.
But it's also because nothing motivates me enough to leave my bed.
I'm supposed to be at uni just studying and instead I'm in bed drifting in and out of sleep and browsing the Internet on my phone.

Everything is dull and my room is messy and I just can't motivate myself to do what I am supposed to, obviously people at uni are angry at me and I'm trying to change my behavior but I just don't know if I even care. And that is awful. I mean I care a bit I love my course.

I don't know.
What do I do?

The safety of staying in bed is so strong.

Aimee, reading this makes me feel sad because you deserve so much better. <3

I could have written that post myself, I understand just how hard it can be.
People have given advice on a thread I made, I shall go through the posts and come back with things I found helpful. Maybe there's some things you can try too.

I just wanted to say you're not alone in this.

I could also have written this thread.

What has helped me in the past was to make breakfast dates or have an exercise class or something in the morning to get up for until I could get up n my own. But then, having a lie in sometimes isn't a bad thing.

I don't have much advice because I'm exactly the same myself and I know how hard it is to put suggestions into practice when you have literally zero motivation! Luckily I have a full time job that keeps me going but outside of that, I'm always in bed! You're not alone, as you can see many people here have/are experiencing this.

I go through small patches like this. Sometimes its triggered by having a migraine in the day and having to sleep it off at some strange hour then not sleeping right afterwards, or getting several in a row and I easily become conditioned to staying in bed.

I find staying in PJs makes me worse, as soon as I have showered, got dressed I'm a lot more 'pliable' to getting going. I'd suggest forcing yourself to put shower and get dressed and get ready to go out, then put your shoes on and take the rubbish out.

If you still feel like **** you've lost nothing, and you can take your shoes off and sit up and do some work, if you feel really **** you can go back to bed. But you will have to get changed into clean PJs :tongue2:

Find something you have to do and do it. Tell yourself you need a shower then once you're up and refreshed you will feel much better. It's the actual need to get up and once that's done you'll feel the incentive to do stuff. Is this lack of motivation or side effects of meds? Hope you find your get up and go.

I can really empathize. I spend too muchtime in bed too. It's a safe place, a sanctuary.

Try setting yourself small tasks, like cleaning one corner of your room. I did that today and actually felt more motivated so did more. But if you're not feeling motivated at least you've done one thing.

Sending love x

I am the same. Only today have I changed my top that I had kept on for 3 weeks prior. My parents are disappointed in me. Look after yourself first- depression and low mood usually gets worse in wintertime. Try and find someone that you can talk to that understands you - this is key. For me, I can speak to my auntie when I feel like talking. I stay connected using social media but this can make some people more depressed. It depends who you are. Distractions are amazing and there are many apps you can download on your phone to while the time away. More things to do in bed include rainbow loom, playing a handheld console, puzzle books, writing, drawing reading and listening to music. Another idea I had is that you can make lists of different things beginning with the same letter for example, foodstuffs, animals, places, household appliances and so on. Xxxx