Horrible life shattering event at work
 

I been at my current job 3 years. For the first 15 months at this job, everybody talked to me period (except one old dude whose opinion did not matter). Now, everybody talks to me EXCEPT 2 ppl. Jane and Alicia snubs me and therefore, put me through hell. Jane used to like me and added me on Facebook back then. Then she stopped liking me and deleted me, all for no reason. Alicia never liked me from the get go.

For the first few months since encountering this, I tried time after time to make conversation with them. Ailcia would talk to someone and I would join in, only for Alicia to push me out. When I tried to talk to Alicia and Jane alone, they acted disinterested. Sometimes when a coworker and I are talking, Alicia would join in...and push me out. I tried bringing it to my supervisor, who said she can't help me on that one unless I'm actually being bullied.

Speaking of my supervisor, she talks to me occasionally about non work related stuff, but she does so more often with others. She told me she likes me (thx god) but she wants me to focus and not get distracted. She also said when I could talk and work at the same time, then I could talk. Still, with Alicia and Jane being so horrible, how could I go on?

Several years ago, I already had Jaclyn from college and Liz from McD's hurt me the exact same way. Everyone else talked to me then as well, but they turned against me in the end bc I complained about Jaclyn and Liz too much. Not to mention begged and tried to pay the 2 of them to like me.

I'm not sure if I am missing something here, but what exactly is the issue? Is it your supervisor telling you off or is it the people who ignore you at work.

The 2 girls who are snubbing me. And that my supervisor can't help me with that. If she can't help me, idk who can.

I am in therapy. I got put there after having got kicked out of school over Jaclyn. And I lost my job at McD's over Liz. Basically, I begged and tried to pay them to come around and got bitchy with everyone else.

Tbh, it doesn't particulaly read like she is bullying you, your best bet is to just ignore her and get on with your job. If you have to speak to her be polite and civil like you would be to a customer. If you get bitchy with people it could be detrimental to you and not them. But if the snubbing does carry on or gets worse go back to your supervisor.

I'm dealing with 2 stuff at once. That the 2 girls snubbed me and the fact that my supervisor talks to other ppl more about non work related stuff. Even though my supervisor does this for a different reason, she's hurting me too.

I'm not 100% sure on the issue with the supervisor. Is she not allowed to talk to other staff? Or is she not working while talking? How exactly is she hurting you?

She talks to other ppl about non work related stuff but mostly talk to me only when it's work related. She used to have small talks with me though, but that was a long time ago.

Have you tried to engage your supervisor in small talk?

Several times. She told me she needs me to focus and not be distracted. She could talk to them bc they could focus. Like a week ago, she told me to learn to talk and work at the same time or don't talk at all.

Do the other workers work while making small talk with others? It is possible that she is just trying to help you be a better worker, especially if you do stop what you are doing workwise to have a conversation.

I'm sorry you're finding it distressing.

Honestly though, I think your best bet is to just get on with your work. Make the most of the positive things and the people you do get on with, and focus on being good at your job.

Not everyone is going to like you. You're not going to like everyone you have to work with. Yeah, it would be great if they could be grown up about it and still have a good working relationship with you, but if they want to refuse to talk to you then (as long as it doesn't actually prevent you from doing your job) it is their issue not yours. Why does it matter so much that everyone likes you and talks to you?

If you really do feel like you're being bullied, bring it up again with your manager. Otherwise, I would just get on with it and focus on the things YOU can do to make work a positive place.