Her dating games are confusing me
 

What the heck is going on with this girl?
I met a girl on this app and we chatted for a little while. I waited about a week to finally ask for her number just so that she would be comfortable with me. A few days later, I called her to see if she wanted to go to dinner and then movies. She said yes and from the sounds of her voice she was pretty excited.
We were supposed to go on a Monday, but work kept her late. I understood and we rescheduled for Tuesday.
Tuesday night, she tells me that her job is keeping her late but we could get a bite to eat later after she gets off. I never got a call back from her so I assumed she was no longer interested.

Wednesday, I decided to back off and go my own way until she calls me late in the afternoon, she calls me saying how sorry she was and how she felt so bad. the fact that she called me meant that maybe she really did have ****ty luck and she was not standing me up. I asked if she wanted to give it one more try and she agreed to catch dinner later that night. We kept in contact that whole night. But after work, she told me that she felt self conscious and tired and we should try again tomorrow. She told me that she promised that she would be done early from work. I was getting annoyed but trying to be understanding, I agreed.

That Thursday, I texted her. Nothing. I called her and still no reply. I made a few more sporadic attempts and did not get a single reply from her.


I have been screwed in the dating game, but this was some bull. Why would she call and apologize for standing me up only to do it again without even an apology or explanation? Am I getting catfished?Did she die or get hurt in an accident? At the very least, she could have taken 30 seconds to message me back that something happened. If she was not interested, she should have never called me back.
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This is a tough one
I can relate to the girl cause I work a stressful job where my hours had me canceling on things all the time.
But yes she should have tried to txt you about what happened instead of keeping you waiting.
I dont know if she is playing games but I would say just kind of take it slow ask her what happened and just see if she tries to set up another date.

My personal opinion is that you can't ever know someone else's reasoning for doing something, and can only protect yourself. If you don't feel this is right, cut off contact. If you want to see where it goes, give her another chance. I personally don't like it when I feel someone else has all the power - but at the same time maybe it's very difficult for her to meet someone for a date. You have the knowledge here, work from your gut. But if it doesn't work out, don't beat yourself up. You're strong enough to put yourself out there, keep going xx

i frequently cancel and then have so much guilt from that i'm too embarrassed and paranoid to contact people. like so many of my best friends i used to struggle to go days without seeing i haven't contacted in months. so it might not be mind games.

at the same time either she's inconsiderate or in a place where she's not currently able to date someone. considering you're on this forum i'm guessing you have your own crap to deal with so you're under no obligation to look after this woman. if it's this tricky to meet her for a date i'd think this isn't going to be worth the stress of getting into a relationship with her. you could be spending your time giving someone else a go that could be a lot less problematic! you have to protect yourself as spiders*web says.