Broken Hearts
 

I feel like a really shitty person right now. I broke up with my boyfriend on my birthday.
I'd only been dating him for a few weeks, but he was extremely involved in the relationship. He was looking far into the future, and I just didn't see it. He's 19, and had a lot more experience than I did. This was my first relationship.
I invited him to my birthday party with all of my friends, and a mutual friend from his class was all over him for the whole party. I tried to break up with him at the end of the night, but he's stubborn and won't leave me alone. The break up hurts, but it would be easier if he could let me go. I can't deal with a relationship right now, in my emotional state. The guy is really sweet, but he's not for me. I feel so bad for hurting him. Life sucks right now.

I'm sorry to hear about your break up and that he won't leave you alone. Would it help to write him a letter about how you feel and ask him to respect your wishes and give you some space?

I agree with the letter writing idea. Sometimes it's easier to get through to people about what you really mean through written words than it is through speech.

How are things now?

Thank you for the advice. I've written to him, and asked him to give me some space. He has listened for now, but I feel bad and I'm so conflicted. Why are relationships so complicated?

I wonder the same thing... About relationships being complicated! I broke up with my boyfriend on Sunday and it does hurt! *hugs*

Breakups hurt even when you are the one doing it. Just give eachother space and some time it'll get easier that's good he is giving you some space to deal with things.
I hope everything works out.