Not sure what i can do anymore :(
 

I'm not sure what I can do! There's always something what starts brewing along the way of us two having a fight. I never do anything to upset my mum or say anything what can come across but rude but she doesn't give me much choice as her responses towards me are exactly the same.

Couple of times when we have been out in the past she's not liked what I'm wearing, what I look like, how I'm am and if I'm annoyed or wanna take time out. It comes into a big thing all the time! That's why I've had to stop going out with her and making a excuse to say I'm tired and look not my best today so that she can feel better in herself as what she's told me in the past is true.

None of it is true! I'm her daughter and I'm not gonna change for her for nobody. This is me ans if she dont like it then she will lose me forever and I will move out as planned cuz I can't cope like this anymore when it's only us and I've tried everything to reason out with her and all she does is call me names, say I'm a waste of space, tell my sister how I am and swear all the time. I just feel like walking out this house for good and not coming back as I dont want this to happen anymore when no one is here like my dad or my other sister to stick up for me.

There's always been tesion this day one when I started growing up and annoying her. You don't wanna know the half of out! All of it isn't true so I understand why my sister left when she had chance. I know that's a bit rude but it's true and then there's the issue about my hair and what I wear. I am not happy! Dont even like me having a bf! Everything she's doing is too controlling. There's no point trying to talk to her or my dad or my sister or arguing with her. The only way she will notice is if I move out for good and I can do the hell I want. My uncle now knows we don't get on living together and he said arguing does not help which is true and maybe I do need to move out but I have no where to go. I can then not have access to being in the house with her, can stop going to that hairdresser I have who has all of a sudden cur my hair short where I didn't even say for her to. My auntie said why don't u tell her what u want as ur paying her money every time and she's doing a bad job. I can't tell her cuz all she will do is say well ur hair is like this and like that but when it comes to my other sisters she don't do anything to there's and asks what they want.

It's really not fair! Thinks that as I am a young girl I wouldnt be able to stick up for myself and if I did she may ban me for coming into the salan. Where as my mum will be unhappy but she can't do that as at the end of the day she shouldn't be treating her customers in a way where they just wanna leave. I can't take this anymore. That's why I'm so desperate to get a job and go with that for now and see about getting a place on my own. I'm lucky that I am 22 and can move out so she can't phone the police again and say I've ran away from home and need to come back like what happened before. I dont wanna live with my sister in Oxford, I can't live with my dad and I'm not staying at my other sisters cuz there's no room and she has a baby and I wouldnt want to as me and her disagree all the time. So what am I suppose to do? Carry on like everything is normal? My dad came yesterday and said how we are both getting on and o said for the first time in ages that were getting on alright but now we're not again. Doesn't say what my sister should and shouldn't do. Needs to remember that I'm 22 years old and not a 17 year old girl.

This is really upsetting me now and I would love to walk out of this door and not come back but I can't cuz if I did and I didnt come back the police would be looking for me and if she did so that I will not forgive her.

Here she goes again! Moaning at me as always. I feel like crying right now. No one can help me or say or do anything so that's why I'm asking what I should do? I want to move out as that's the only choice I've got for her to realise that she's driven me like this.

What can I do?

I need help :(

Why do you think your mother would phone the police?

If you get a job and save up enough money and make a sound and reasonable plan for moving out, she wouldn't have any room to fuss.

Is there any way you could arrange a meeting between you and your mother with a third party to mediate? That may be the best choice that would allow you to remain in her house.

Thanks. I have tried that already but it still doesnt help. M'y dad has been there as in thé third party and nothing gets sorted out. Still carrys on.

I need something différent

Hmmm, I just wondering if you have a housing income for low costs so you can apply a jobs to pay for it? Yes, you can whatever you wants to do in your life & that's the best choice to make.

Can you write a letter to your mom about how are you feeling in this situation? If so, she had no right doing that to you. I had a similar thing about the hairdresser with my mother.

I was wondering how old you were. Moving out sounds good, do you go to college or have a job. This would be good for your independence. All parents comment on clothes though. Just ignore her. Unless what you wear is like half naked stuff or something.

Hi crazy about monkeys, yh that wouldnt work. Again its another form of communcation. Wont like me for it. When Im not around with her that much wé get on better but when were together 24/7 then wé dont.

I know thats How à mother and daughter thing works but it drives u crazy. I cant be with her for that space of time. Little things like arguing about the tv, thé washing up, tidying around thé house etc. Its stupid.

No i dont have any house income and Im not sure what u mean by it being for jobs. All m'y savings are worked out by my mum and I so I know what Im entilled to and how much Ive got coming in.

Yh i dont know what to do about that either. My sister dont go for her for her hair. I dont understand why i have to? Im never happy with it and have to prétend to like it and if i dont get it done my mum will shout. This is what i mean.

Hi injected with posion, i am 22 and can move out if i want to. I feel like right now i still do and told my dad and hes said about what i can do but its not a good solution to thé problem. I have to have a job to move out.

Ive had no luck with jobs at the moment. Ive been looking and hearing back and getting interviews but no actual job. One got back to me after interview and said there were people closely matched. I thought i would of got it. I dont know what i can do? Its really bad luck Ive got. I cant do anything untill i get a job. Im stuck.

Yh its about thé clothes i were which my dress sensé is fashionable so i dont see what she means. No i dont wear anything which is revealing. Thats not my taste. I dress reasonable allthe time.

I still dont know what to do :(

Thanks for ur reply.

I know what you means hun.

Ummm, what kind of jobs that you will be interested in? Maybe, you can find jobs online at home? Like writing a books or a business to save some money.

Do you have your saving account at the bank? Have you look for a cheap apartment? If you find a low income for the rent of the apartment, hoping you will gets one soon. Hope this helps a bit more.

Yh thats true Wonderwall and i have done and taken action but i think sitting down with her is thé only thing what has worked but i dont know if i get anywhere though thats the only solution whats worked. Maybe i have to try it again. Thanks.

Crazy about Monkeys Thank You for understanding and knowing u have been through it. Thats really good to know. The jobs Im looking for is anything but more retail. Yh thats what Im doing as Im with the Job Centre and have done before so i go for interviews etc then i dont get offered the job. Its not the interviews what are problem i dont think as Ive had jobs before but couldnt do them for some reason as it was the wrong job for me got offered it but the jobs i know what is right for me other people are going for it where i didnt have that problem before.

When Ive just round what work i can do other people get there first when Im usually the first one to see it. I dont know. I think its the employer whats the problem. They never give me a chance as they seem happy about my interview etc but dont offer me thé Job so thats got to be some good enough reason but i always feel like now i just keep getting shoved off. Theres nothing wrong with me. What can I do?

Yes i do but i try not to touch my savings and only would if it was the right choice. I want it to be the right one. I only go through that with my mum as shes the best one with my savings. No i havent but looked online and there are a couple but its not right for me any of them. It needs to be worth the move.

Yh but that can take à while to get somewhere. I already told my mum and sister and they know would like to get my own place but they are right in saying everything i said but at the same time my mum is always going on to me and treats me différent from thé rest which Im not saying its a bad thing or good thing. What can i do? My sister is on waiting list and still usent heard anything. Takes ages u know.

What you can do is, you can't shoved it off so just try to be a professional one & be nice to others employee when they don't know about it. Keep going to the job centre for more interviews until you got the job soon I hope.

I think you should keep your savings until you get the job first then a limitless longer, you will be able to move out for the first time. Waiting list is a pain, my friend has the same thing because a lots of people who wants to move in instead of waiting lists. Where did you live? I'm sure you will find the right apartment or flat. Haven't you tell her how she would treat you different?

Yh thats true but its hard not to feel upset that u didnt get the but u cant say that to thé employer cuz they may get a bit funny with u. I dont know. Yh with my savings i dont wanna touch that and yh will still go Job Centre cuz i have to. I need à job now :(

Yh i know. My sister is on waiting list. Still hasnt heard anything back. What if it was someone who had kids and were on there own? What they suppose to do! Thats not good at all!

I wouldn't agree with moving till you get a job and you sound like you are still a bit in need of being around your family. Did you think about education? Sometimes I find your posts hard to read and I'm not being a bitch but that's not going to help you lster on. I mean you could do that and live at home.

Yh it's best to get a job first then to move out cuz I wouldn't have no money and where would I go lol. Yh that's true.

I said that anyway but it's still arguments and that. I could try talking to my mum but I don't know if that will work. I know things have been alright when someone else is there so could try that.

I didn't think about education cuz my main priority is looking for work and I want a job nks and not doing anything else. I need a job but with the education I will see in the future. Though things have been going ok at the moment.

What do u mean u don't understand some of my posts? Is it the amount of words I use or something? No one has said this to me so wanted to know why u said that? I usually make ny posts pretty clear. I'm not sure what u mean unfortunately.

What won't happen me listen on? You say listen on? I'm not sure what u mean? I don't understand u? Your not being a bitch? I don't think its really necessary to say that on here to be honest. I'm not sure why u said it

Thank You for the advice.

Good to hear that and I will look into and carry on doing what I think is good to help the situation in the first place. I will see what happens and I agree with everything about this from u lot.

Your posts are not easy to work out. The syntax etc is all wrong. I am just telling you so that when you write applying for jobs and what not you will be aware of this. I am not being nasty but somebody had to say this. It could be the reason you haven't found work.

^ I've noticed that as well, it can be difficult trying to guess at what you are trying to say, and that kind of thing can make a big difference to employers - I don't think Injected with the poison was trying to be nasty, just trying to help.

^Thanks, at the same time the poster writes a lot and really tries to help but it can be hard when the writing is not understandable. I had problems with this too before but going to college had a big impact on learning to write in a more coherent fashion and you could be educated but still suffer from communication issues.