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support please....

I don't know what to do anymore. I'm scared to even leave the house incase I see him somewhere. I'm scared to be in the house incase he comes round and figures out that I'm not in and tries to find me.

I can't cope with the voices in my head as there too noisy, it doesn't help that people don't understand that I don't feel safe. I'm trying my best to ignore them because they tell me to do so much bad stuff and I'm almost 2 years free.

I just. keep seeing it, keep feeling it, keep hearing him and have no idea what to do i need distraction and they're so hard to find.

was it my fault?
did i deserve it?
why didn't i stop it?
why was i so stupid?

Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear about what happened, it's incredibly difficult to deal with and I'm not surprised you're having these feelings and are frightened <3

Firstly it absolutely 100% was not your fault and in no way did you deserve it. No one deserves to go through what you went through; it is no ones fault but your abusers. You couldn't have done anything to stop them, they are to blame and they hurt you and it was wrong, you aren't stupid at all.

Do you have any support at the moment? Perhaps from friends/family or professional support?

The voices sound quite intense at the moment, do you find anything helps to reduce them?

Take care.

It was definitely not your fault and you definitely didn't deserve any of this. And you are definitely not stupid.

Do you have any professional you could talk to, family or friends?

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Originally Posted by Charmed (Post 3750755)

Sorry I've not been online, I didn't realise poeple had replied to this, I have some close friends who know what happened and they're really good with me when things are difficult evne hwen I'm texting them at 2am....

I use a lot of distractions and try to remember I'm safe but it's not working so well at the moment.

xxxx

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Originally Posted by Laura2.0 (Post 3751253)

It was definitely not your fault and you definitely didn't deserve any of this. And you are definitely not stupid.

Do you have any professional you could talk to, family or friends?

I have some close friends who know what happened and they're really good with me when things are difficult evne hwen I'm texting them at 2am....

it really feels like I deserved it, it was all my fault to start with, I knew he wasn't nice from being in school with him, if I had never agreed to go out with him maybe this wouldn't have happened, maybe I would have known not to be so stupid, maybe I would have just been 'normal' xxxx

No, you couldn't know what would happen and it is not stupid.

Have you talked to your friends about this?

*hugs* it's not your fault- noone asks to be treated that way

Hey honey,

As the others have said, it is in no way your fault and no one deserves to be hurt. The only person at fault here is your abuser. You couldn't have stopped them.

It's good to hear you have good friends who are there for you.

Perhaps it'd help you to speak to a trained professional about all this?

x x x

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Originally Posted by Laura2.0 (Post 3752119)

No, you couldn't know what would happen and it is not stupid.

Have you talked to your friends about this?

*nods* my friends know what happened.

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Originally Posted by LittleCloud (Post 3752152)

*hugs* it's not your fault- noone asks to be treated that way

it scares me, makes me feel stupid, like it's all i should be treated like and all i should have is that kind of treatment.

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Originally Posted by Mix Tape (Post 3752170)

I tried to talk to a professional about it but they didn't understand and just told me that there wasnt a lot they could do i'm so angry and frustrated all i want to do right now is hide.

xx