A little advice needed...
 

Hi there.

I don't tend to post in this area of RYL but I think this might be a more suitable place.

Last year in January I found out I was a month pregnant. After five months in May the scan showed the baby wasn't developing and we had to terminate the pregnancy. I gave birth in May and he was buried in June.

The advice I need is because I am now with a new partner and we want to try for a baby. Finding out I was pregnant made me realise one thing; I want a family.

My MH is stable and my physical health is improving and I'm under close watch with it.

However, I am terrified it will happen again. Obviously my partner didn't go through it last time and has never been through anything like this; in fact he has a child which was because of a one night stand so he thinks pregnancy is something easy and simple...but thinking about it scares me to the point I shake.

I want nothing more than a child and starting a family but this is something that really hurt me.

How do I move past this to look to the future? Am I jusy blowing it out of proportion and should just try anyway? Is it normal to still hurt from this?

Thanks, Katie

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Katie, I don't know what to say. That must have been awful. It's something I have never been through, so I really don't know what to suggest. It's horrible what happened, but it may not happen again. I think you need to ask a health professional for advice, and if you decide to try for a baby keep talking to people, keep reaching out for support. Do you talk to your partner about what happened?

I hope you do eventually get your family and I'm sure you will be a brilliant mum. x

I think you are right to still have those feelings. I think that talking to your new partner about your difficulties is a good first step. Also, talking to your GYN or GP about your body and what you need to do to make the journey as safe as possible for you and your family to be. I hope that you take care of yourself and realize that being overwhelmed and scared about the possibilities is normal. (((hugs))