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Iamtiiired 13-08-2013 07:19 PM

Come and support.
 
I'm back.

So Dash ? Could you explain to me your outlook on my approach of people's interactions ?

FabulousMike 13-08-2013 07:20 PM

How do you mean? Can you explain the question please?

shadow-light 13-08-2013 07:21 PM

I think they mean that at the end of the last thread Dash had made a comment but now that thread is gone so they want it clarifying

FabulousMike 13-08-2013 07:23 PM

No, I seen that comment :) I just don't understand that question at hand, I want to put my ten pence worth in if I can :P

Tig 13-08-2013 07:27 PM

It would be really helpful if members don't comment in this thread if they don't have anything helpful to say, or add to the discussion.

It is only going to promote a flame-war and cause more problems for everybody. It would be best for people not to flame in here because then more people end up with points when easily avoided.

Thank you.

FabulousMike 13-08-2013 07:31 PM

Like mentioned by Dash, if you are worried/concerned or whatever the word that you may or may not have some sort of a disorder it's always worth getting that checked out, it never hurts.

FabulousMike 13-08-2013 07:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tig (Post 3638223)
It would be really helpful if members don't comment in this thread if they don't have anything helpful to say, or add to the discussion.

It is only going to promote a flame-war and cause more problems for everybody. It would be best for people not to flame in here because then more people end up with points when easily avoided.

Thank you.

Word.

Shenanigans 13-08-2013 07:33 PM

Hi Iamtierd,
We've spoken before, earlier on in your other thread I pointed out how absurdly horrible the things you said were. I've purposefully not commented on your thread/s because I honestly don't believe you are using this forum in the way it should be used.
As Shadow-light has said though, I believe people deserve support when they feel they need it. However, I struggle to understand what exactly you want from this forum. You continually say you want us to give you "support" with fairly broad examples which are difficult to reply to. You complain that other members (people who have constructed support systems here, who have helped many members and have a strong social standing in this forum) of getting more replies than you and how "unfair" this is. You seem to think that this forum is out to attack you.
This defensive and accusing behavior will get on people's backs naturally. I don't know why you don't/can't understand that. I dare not hazard a guess. However, I find your whole demeanor disrespectful and insulting. That's just a personal observation. I do not feel that I would like you if I met you in real life.
I have seen the things you have written on another members thread and I find them disgusting. You cannot turn those comments around to display yourself as a victim. You are not a victim. What you have said and done is completely deserving of the reaction you got.
I think a lot of your problems are resolved around this: You do not have the social skills needed to gain healthy relationships in society.

I do not believe that people are "disrespectful" to you for no reason. I think people have every right to react to you that way, you just have a permanent belief of yourself as a victim rather then equally accountable for situations.
You like to point your finger, forgetting that four are pointed back at you.

I think you need to work with your psych on your social skills. Forums exaggerate social experience/inexperience and I think you should use this example to learn a bit about yourself.

I think deleting your thread is childish. I think you owe the other member an apology for the derogatory, ignorant and plain stupid things you have said and I think you should really look at yourself in the mirror and make some changes. You have shown a staggering amount of insensitivity and idiocy in your words, and there is nothing you can do to escape that now. You need to learn to accept what you have done, apologize and learn that you cannot paint yourself a victim when you yourself are in the wrong.

And again, look into this problem with your psych. You clearly have a serious problem with social situations, and this will only cause you more problems in later life.

I am not trying to flame. Purely giving my opinion with advice as honestly as I can.

Iamtiiired 13-08-2013 07:48 PM

I didn't delete my thread. But thanks for all the replies.

FabulousMike 13-08-2013 07:49 PM

How can we help you out this evening?

Iamtiiired 13-08-2013 07:57 PM

Actually I'm in a good mood right now. I have a date with a handsome guy and we're planning to travel for a couple of days to spend an idyllic moment !

FabulousMike 13-08-2013 08:04 PM

Sounds nice but travelling with somoone you've just met? That does not sound too safe.

Iamtiiired 13-08-2013 08:05 PM

I'll risk my life for having sex :)

FabulousMike 13-08-2013 08:06 PM

Personally I think that's rather silly but each to there own.

Iamtiiired 13-08-2013 08:06 PM

Trust me, the guy is clean. I got to know him a little bit and he souds harmless.

FabulousMike 13-08-2013 08:07 PM

Fair enough, as long as you feel comfortable, that's all that matters, I suppose.

On.My.Way 13-08-2013 08:08 PM

There is a difference between being harmless and sounding harmless... just keep your wits about you and don't let your guard down too much. You can't be 100% sure this guy is safe/ harmless.

FabulousMike 13-08-2013 08:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by On.My.Way (Post 3638272)
There is a difference between being harmless and sounding harmless... just keep your wits about you and don't let your guard down too much. You can't be 100% sure this guy is safe/ harmless.

Wise words!

Iamtiiired 13-08-2013 08:09 PM

I live in a place where we have very few psychopaths.

Shenanigans 13-08-2013 08:10 PM

Normal people kill folks a lot more than psychopaths do.
Just saying...
But yeah, you've obviously thought this through tonnes. Have fun.


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