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Blue&Grey 04-08-2013 08:26 AM

Guilt.
 
I did some very messed up things when I was younger (elementary school age). I know that I was too young to really understand what I was doing, etc., but that doesn't stop me from feeling guilty. I used to constantly hate myself for it but then I finally told my IT. I felt like a huge load had been taken off my chest. I still feel very badly sometimes though. Usually I am fine but tonight is just one of those nights.
I don't really know what I'm wanting from this thread. Maybe just knowing someone else out there feels the same way or experiences something similar would help me feel less alone.

Blue&Grey 04-08-2013 09:47 AM

I don't think I could say it here, I've only ever told my IT, she helped me a lot but I think if I told anyone else I would feel worse. Thank you for your reply though, I have lots of problems with blowing my guilt out of proportion too.

Yenevoc 04-08-2013 12:18 PM

I'm sorry you had a bad night. Are things any better today? I used to feel guilty all the time too and it can still creep up on me. Is there anything you can do to remind you of the good things you've done in your life?

hugs

Hilary

PassedExpectations 04-08-2013 07:48 PM

i don't know that you need to tell anyone you don't want to... confessing things can be a vicious circle sometimes if you've got out of proportion guilt

i find it helpful to ask myself whether i would want someone i cared about (usually i'll think best friend, or little cousin/little sibling) to feel guilty, or to be punished, if they had done what i did... usually the answer is "no way", and then it comes down to figuring out why i don't allow myself the same compassion i would someone i care about, and finding ways to show myself that compassion so that i can learn to accept it and make it a habit

Blue&Grey 07-08-2013 06:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PassedExpectations (Post 3631197)
i don't know that you need to tell anyone you don't want to... confessing things can be a vicious circle sometimes if you've got out of proportion guilt

i find it helpful to ask myself whether i would want someone i cared about (usually i'll think best friend, or little cousin/little sibling) to feel guilty, or to be punished, if they had done what i did... usually the answer is "no way", and then it comes down to figuring out why i don't allow myself the same compassion i would someone i care about, and finding ways to show myself that compassion so that i can learn to accept it and make it a habit

This is really good advice, I've heard it before but I never really thought about it until you brought it up just now. It made me feel loads better, thanks <3


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