I'm new
 

Hi,

My name's Sonia and I'm new to this forum. I only came across it tonight when trying to find some sort of help/support for self-harmer's.

I'm 28 and have been a self-harmer on and off since I was 16. I did go through about 6 years in that period where I didn't do it at all, and then about 4 years ago I relapsed and have been doing it on and off since.

I don't want to be a self-harmer, I just don;t know how else to cope when I reach the point of doing it. I've not yet found anything else which gives me the same release and relief that self harm does and I get frightened that I won't be able to cope if I don't do it any more.

I have arms full of scars that I have to keep covered as not everyone around me is aware of what I do. It's hard having to hide all the time, but my family would never understand. My mum is so 'no-nonsense' and my dad is good intentioned but completely clueless!

This is why I have turned to the forum for help. I'm very isolated and alone in my struggle and I really want to find people I can connect with who understand self-harm and what brings a person to do it.

Sonia x

Hi :)
 

Hi there Sonia, welcome to the site :) hopefully you find the support you're looking for, which I'm sure you will, considering everyone I've met here so far is really nice and caring :) don't be afraid to reach out and share your thoughts, I and others here would love to help out!

Take care,
Delilah <3

Hi Sonia, welcome to RYL :)

I'm sorry to hear you are struggling with self harm at the moment, but I hope you can find all the support you need from here. There are lots of articles on the main site about self harm, as well as an article designed for parents, friends etc, if you ever decided you wanted to tell them. There is also the Self Injury Discussion and Support forum where you can post and ask for help/support regarding your self harm.

Take care xxxx

Hey, welcome to RYL! :)

Firstly, well done on taking the big step to ask for some support, I'm sure you'll find some here!
I'm Invincible, I've been a member for a few years, and have dealt with depression, anxiety, and self harm. I can always listen though, even if it's not something I can relate to first hand, or offer advice directly.

This is the link for the Supporters.
This is the link to the Ezine!
This is the link to the Self Harm forum
This is the link to the Eating Disorders forum
This is the link to the BIG DISTRACTION PAGE!

Anything else, just ask :) x

Hi Sonia,

Welcome to RYL, I hope you find the site helpful and supportive. I think the others have covered it really but if you ever want to chat about anything feel free to PM me, take care x

Welcome to RYL :)
I'm sorry to hear about your struggles but I'm sure you'll find the support you deserve here, even if you struggle to see it at times you must have incredible strength six years is an amazing achievement.
Feel free to PM me if you need anything.
x

hey there,

welcome to ryl , i hope you find this a supportive place ,

if you ever want a chat or need anything feel free to pm me :)

BB x