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Really down - Bad News City
Hi, just need a hug or something. Anything.
Got the horrible news today that one of the girls I work with tried to commit suicide at the weekend - she is now in hospital. I knew she'd been signed off sick last week but had no idea it was anything close to that. Everything in our work at the moment is getting really stressful, everyone's trying to hit targets, we've had an audit, are overwhelmed with demand for services and the clients we deal with on a day to day basis seem to get more and more demanding and obnoxious. We're a small office and we've blown off before about how tough it is at the moment but when something like this happens it kicks the shit out of everyone. I don't know if this has anything to do with what happened but I'm sure it has not helped things and I did wonder how long it would be before something had to give amongst us. I am really sad that it was her as she is so incredibly nice to work with and almost wish I could have taken her place - if that doesn't sound wrong. What is most upsetting is that whilst I will never know exactly what went through her head at that time, I'm damn sure I've got a pretty good idea. I just wish I had known so I could have talked to her and she would know she's not alone. But I have never brought those issues up with anyone I work with - I've not had reason to. I've also found out this weekend that my aunt and uncle are splitting and its made a huge mess of things, not least for my cousins because it was completely unexpected and we all keep hearing different stories. This is all making me feel quite down and I need to keep my head screwed on whilst I finish my uni work. Why am I worrying about all this, its not like its happening to me, why should people feel sorry for me getting a bit down about it - its so so daft. Anyway, there you go. Sorry about that... |
Firstly, Please don't apologise for posting. That's why we're here, right? Work sounds extremely stressful right now and i can imagine it's extremely difficult having that happen to somebody so close. Understanding somebody is hurting is hard at the best of times but with other things going on too it can't be easy. The truth is, she didn't 'succeed'? If anything, does that not say that she's not ready to leave just yet? You mention you've never mentioned anything to your collegues though could this possibly be an oppertunity for you to support this other person through your own experience? Opening up isn't easy though another option could possibly be to try and influence people around her to deal with this the way you wish they would deal with it if you were her? Simple things like not asking questions people don't always understand but if you could somehow prevent this, in turn you will be helping her... Hopefully, she'll be recieving the right support now though ensuring she knows she isn't alone could be important if you feel comefortable with this? Please remember, you are just as important and you are in no way responsible so try not to punish yourself or think about it too hard... As for your auntie and uncle, break ups are never easy though one way to look at is that atleast it's happend now? They could have pretended things were okay for much longer which could have only made things hurt most... Also, use protecting and caring for your cousins as a distractions from all the other things. Alot of this is easier said than done, but you are not alone! I hope something i've said comes of some use! Please stay strong, Kia <3 |
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