I'm 17 and I wish I was pregnant?
 

I'm 17 and I have daydreamed about being pregnant for over 2 years. My boyfriend and I are going to start having sex soon. I'm going to a gyn tomorrow to get on the pill and we're going to use condoms all the time to be safe. I would never deliberately get pregnant because I know it would harm my future and because my boyfriend obviously doesn't want to have a baby. Yet I can't help but daydream about accidentally getting pregnant. How abnormal is this? I'm also a cutter and I'm bulimic. I don't know why I'm so messed up because I was raised well and I've never been abused.

i don't really know about all the baby stuffs, could just be youy like babies? by the sounds of it wou thing about having a baby...baby not toddler, child, pre-teen, teenager.... maybe you just like babies or the idea of pregnancy.

but you are not "messed up" and somtimes these thisng dotn happen because of the way you where rased, could be something else.

I was like this when I was 16 and 17. For me it was because I wanted something to tie me to this earth because if I killed myself I would also be destorying another life, something that was phycially apart of me. Now that I am older and maturer I am soo happy I didn't get pregant. Life is so fullof great oppurnitys and having a baby can limit those. If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me ! xoxo

Your need for constant love, companionship and something to look after is probably fueling that desire. Good for you being smart and not actually doing it. I suggest getting a puppy or kitten. They satisfy a lot of those needs and they're much easier than babies. :)

I think it is partly a need to be needed, if that makes sense.

Perhaps you like the idea of having something that is totally reliant on you, and will love you and need you unconditionally. It quite normal.


get a puppy :)

is it the pregnancy you want or the baby?
i suggest you offer to babysit if you feel the need as it can help satisfy the need...and possibly change your mind lol.
im glad you are being mature and realising that you need to practice safe sex and not use trickery. use this time to concentrate on getting yourself better and then re think having a baby.

I agree. I think these days it is much more pressure to get pregnant, because there are more teenage pregnancies than say 15 years ago. I know when I went to school there was no teenagers getting pregnant in our whole school, the situation would be different now. Your feelings are probably made worse because of the fact that many people your age are pregnant or had babies.

If possible, like 88shelz said, try looking after babies! They are very hard work (that is part of the reason why I dont have any!), and take away your social life. Perhaps looking after other babies, will help make your mind up.

Right now, like 88shelz says, the best thing is to concentrate on getting yourself better and maintaining your relationship. When you are in an extremely stable part of your life (both in terms of your health and your relationship), then I would talk to your boyfriend. When you both can agree the time is right, your partner is in full time employment and if you still want a baby, then that is perhaps the right time to consider bringing a baby into the world.

I agree with ^

Especially agree with the idea of getting an animal - cats are less hassle to look after imo, but dogs are more like a child in that they are dependent. Definitely not a good idea to get pregnant until you & partner are both decided you want that.

trust me i have a daughter and it is really hard work get you career sorted first im 18 and it is really hard to do my uni work, maybe u should get a pet u obv have a need to care for someone/ something

you can always look after my chid for the day that will change your mind




( just kidding by the way) lol

Hey. I definitely understand. I'm 19. I've been in places where I've really, really wanted a child. I really wanted to experience the way pregnancy effects the body and what it's like to be a parent. That said, I know the same as you that's a really, really bad idea.

I have pet rats. They help a lot. I also live action roleplay the mother figure of a 20-something. I have trouble expressing my nurturing side and have a lot of trouble self-soothing. The idea and acting out of motherhood helps that a lot. I don't know, but maybe that could contribute to your want. I also tend to blame mine on my cycle, as it tends to get intense around ovulation, sometimes.

ok so i kinda understand becaue when i was younger i thought i wanted one intil i developed a ED , i guess it was down to i wanted somethink somene to love and love me back and because no one cared for me i wanted to look after some one
im glad also i didnt choose to not just cuz (ed) because when my mum was rush to hospitial for about a couple days and she went in for a least a week and a half and i had to look after my brothers and sister 2 of them just need a little looking after but the two youngiest which is a baby and a toddler is very VERY hard work and i only looked after them for a short time when my mum was back she was so greatful but i was really really tierd a tad stressed and could of sleept for days
also it is such a massive responsibilty

Just want to say that I completely relate to this, you're not alone! xx

I can understand this concept however I have never wanted children. Have you considered getting a pet? They're much easier to look after, but depend on you in the exact same way a baby/child would, just less demanding and can be left when you need time for other pursuits.

I guess you need to realise the feelings you have are dream like, almost fantasy because trust me that having children, pregnancy, looking after yourself, keeping all the appointments, childbirth, sleepless nights, stress and responsibility is not going to enter into dreams in the way that it would slam into you in real life if you actually did have a child.

Do you know why/ have you explored what lack of self-fulfilment/ emotional void could be driving the continued dream/wish to fall pregnant? Do you have any treatment or support for your current issues?

Take care and keep posting if it helps to explore your feelings xx