What would you say to...
 

..your 13 year old self? [How many times do you reckon I can make this thread..;D]

[I made this post in 2008/2009 (linky)(linky) and they came up with some interesting responses - maybe if you did it before you can also look back and see how much, if at all, what you would say has changed - so I thought I'd just come back all over again :)]

Just write a letter here to yourself, at the age of 13. In hindsight, what would you say to you?

So..

Dear 13 year old self...

Dear twinkle toes

Wear sunscreen. One day you'll join slimming world, you're better off staying away from Ann. One day you'll move to Tunbridge Wells, don't drink quite so much. One day you'll buy a flat in Folkestone then move back to Dorset after living there only three months; I'd say still go ahead & buy it, just don't chase the market down when you come to sell it. Don't lend any money to the prozzie that travels semi-regularly on the train, you'll never get it back. My biggest bit of advice is DO NOT be light fingered with that handbag and rucksack; you're life will be right royaly screwed up & you'll start playing with sharp implements.


You aged 31

P.S. Trust me on the sunscreen ;)

I saw what I said last time.

Now I'd say:

Dear 13 year old Sarah. Life is worth it. Trust me. It gets a whole lot better. And you haven't even watched Sherlock yet! Come on. Relax, stop worrying and enjoy life. Love 21 year old you.

Dear 13 year old idiot;

Grow up. Stay away from people. Dont let ayneone in, they're nto good for you. Also, Sherlock has not been invented, adn thats good man. And you havent met Sarah yet, or anyone else. Like. stop whining, grow up and just go with it.

No love,

Me.

Dear 13 year old Mary,

Spend more time with your friends and don't listen to that bitchh. Do not get drunk at that party and just try to enjoy yourself for once. Oh and do not pick leisure and tourism for your GCSE's and do some maths revision, you idiot. Just be prepared.

Good Luck.

Dearest iJack,

Don't try smoking. Play quarterback instead of defensive end. Don't quit karate.

Dear [Alit],

Attached are the winners of all major sporting events that will happen in the next 10 years of your life. Also attached are winning lottery numbers.
Bet large.

Dear 13 year old self,
Don't start smoking, you'll still be trying to quit 5 years later.
Go out. Have fun. Enjoy yourself while you can.
Think more carefully about what GCSE's you choose, and actually try to do well at them, you have a brain in there somewhere.
Also think more carefully about what college courses you choose!

And most importantly, do not go out with him. Although the bruises are gone, 4 years later and you're still battling with the consequenses. You don't deserve to be treated like that, no-one does.

Love,
18 year old self.

:laugh:This.

Also: Dear 13 year old Rowan,

This year is going to be really f***ing s***, you'll end up in foster care but it'll toughen you up, just don't drink to get through it and it might not be so bad. You know who your real friends are, the ones that will be with you always, take care of them because sometimes they'll be the only thing that keeps you from the edge. Look after yourself and stop winding up in hospital because once you hit 14 you're gonna have some of the best times of your life.
But when you hit 18 whatever you think it can be worse so don't do it. It will be your greatest regret and will always haunt you.

Lots of love, 19 year old Rowan.

Dear 13 year old self,
s**t happens, and there will be alot of it.
but it'll get better.
good luck!

Dear you...

Okay, last year sucked, but it wasn't your fault and you've every right to be upset/angry - you didn't deserve it. Don't feel you have to bottle everything up inside you, because you'll keep doing it until you have no capacity left to deal with anything, which will ultimately cause you to go into meltdown.
When you get older, you'll get the urge to travel the world - DO IT, you won't regret it. But spend less time in Vietnam and China cos they suck long-term, go for Thailand and Hong Kong instead.

Take care,
30 year old me.

Dear 13 year old self,

This year will suck more than you could ever imagine. Just try and get through all the psychiatry and happy pills, and you'll be fine :) Trust me x

Reference to Baz Luhrmann perhaps? :)

Indeed it is; a little something to keep 13 year old me thinking WTF for the next 6/7 years :hehe:

Hey you,

I know right now things are changing for you, you've come across a horrible truth and life is becoming very hard. you need to stop hurting yourself and talk to someone all about it, if you dont things are going to get nastier but i cannot say they will get better you still need to talk about it. You're not all those bad things you think you are and soon you will come across who you think is the love of your life dont follow them you stay who you are and inndividual, you can become so much dont let people manipulate who you are! You're just perfect! Im going to give you the advice for art i wish i was give sooner, take the initiative leap get out of that box and you let rip, art has been part of you and you're losing it dont let that happen take every chance you get and flourish with it. You follow your dreams and dont stop until you reach that first star. I have faith in you you pack up your tent from the cross roads ad head in the oppossite direction your facing! Be brave life will prove you wrong!

love from the person you dont want to be x

Dear 13 year old me.

Happy 13th Birthday! Enjoy all the books you begged for. They'll get you through the next 4 years.
I promise you, here and now, that everything is going to be okay.
Maybe not tomorrow, or next week, or within a year or five, but it really will be okay.
Trust me, I know what I'm talking about.
Also; your hair goes banana yellow when you try to dye it electric blue. It is not a good look.

With love.
Your now 19 year old self.

Just found my reply from 2 years ago ;o

Dear 13 year old me.

Right now, your angry, alone and scared. Your brother just left you and your Mother seems not to care, And he is on the war path to do everything in his power to make your life living hell.
Be strong. It might take a while for things to even look like they might get better.
Trust people. Tell them what is going on, they already suspect something is, they just need to know you will be okay.
You will be okay, I promise you.
Be strong, don't turn to the drugs or alcohol. And leave the blade where it is. It will destroy your life.

Be who you want to be and fight for your rights. When He tries things, scream loud, and Run to Mama Bear, she will help you fix it.

You will, one day, be a strong independent woman who will find her way, I'm not there yet, you just have to believe.

From 18 Year old me.

dear 13 yr old self

dont hurt yourself like others do. you deserve so much better than that xx

Dear 13 year old Nic.

You're not quite awesome yet, so for goodness sake cut off that emo fringe and stop listening to HIM and other emo crap. It is not good for you. Start doing the school shows, don't wait until the last year to enjoy it. And LISTEN in lessons. Don't leave everything until a week before the exam then cram it in. It's hard. And you won't be able to get through it without hurting yourself. When that teacher asked what the cuts were, tell her. Maybe if you use the help from her, it won't get as bad as it does.

Do NOT go to that counsellor. That counsellor is bullshiit and she'll make you want to die. Do NOT stop eating. Do not use that as a substitute for cutting. Read. Write. Watch funny things. Anything else. Because if you keep cutting and starving, you WILL lose friends. Your family and remaining friends will cry and scream and shout because they don't know how to help you. And it will suck.

Lastly. You're 13. Not 30. Stop trying to act older than you are, you'll miss your childhood in the end.

From, your 18 year old self.

PS. Dressing like some kind of human rainbow in skinnies, hoodies, band-tees and as many colours as you can get on yourself is NOT COOL.