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Y2j88 26-02-2011 01:16 PM

moving on
 
hey there this is my first post excuse the spelling etc, about 4 years ago i was extremley depressed in a very bad place mentaly and emotionaly due to many things which just sort of boilded over what i was going through was very scary and upsetting to me which caused to me to have some kind of mental breakdown and attemp to end my own life anyway long story short it didnt workout and i was hosptialised during this time i started cutting it was rearly only during this period in my life i spose i wanted an escape from the pain i was feeling however i deeply regret doing this to myself its cost me so many opportunities and made my confidence and self asteem non existant i completly understand what your going through but this is not the way to solve these problems it honest to god just makes things worse later down the road its horrible not being able to do things becouse im so worried about my scars being exposed and i know people will say no one takes any notice etc etc but i think they do and i dont want anyone to think lower of me becouse of this i have scars on both my arms and i think they are very visable i actualy got a tatto to cover sum up on my left arm but i was rushed into it by the shop and had limited choices so now i have a skull there which im not entirly happy wiv please if ure guna get a tatto spend weeks choising one which brings me on to my next point i have been offerd a job in a retail shop in town where i live which means short sleeved shirts which i never whaere how am i sposed to look proffesional wiv these god dam things on my arms im scared im guna be a laughing stock and its even worse becus my brother works there i mean u can wear fleeces in the winter but wot about the 4 or 5 months of summer i cant wear a fllece then can i i wud give anything to change what i done or if i had to just not do it in such a visable place same wiv the tattoo but i stupidly though it woudnt matter becus it wud serve a purpose so i honestly dont know what to do im scared of ending up a loser like my dad very long story i want to work and be happy but ive just made things so very diffucult for myself

PassedExpectations 27-02-2011 12:10 AM

maybe you could ask someone you trust for an honest opinion about how visible the scars really are. and you could try using a scar cream/oil (bio oil, or mederma, etc.) to see if you could reduce them some. it might help you feel more confident.

as for looking professional, you could find really light fabric long sleeved shirts, and wear them over a nice cami or tank top, like with a decorated neckline. (i'm not really explaining this very well.....) and slacks a nice skirt. and maybe a bit of jewelry to make it a bit more interesting.


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