my opinion on pink video triggering
 

I know there are those in here who were very disturbed by the pink video. I have a different opinion. After years and years of the people in my life not understanding my self harming showing them books to read and internet searches this video really showed the emotions behind it. Pink to me was telling people that they are not less than perfect. The whole video from little girl on there was so much hurt and pain but she found her way in the end when she smiled at her painting. Then shes happily married and checks in on her child and utters the sweet words you are not less than perfect. Just those words " You are not less than perfect to me" touched me. Yeah its hard to see the bath tub scene but its what we do. She's not trivializing harming shes making people aware. A beautiful actress even did it and talked about it in a magazine. She wasn't making it sound pretty but trying to enlighten people. Maybe things like that will help find some new coping skills that we haven't heard of yet. I've heard all of them and none of them have worked for me. My therapist says since I'm starting college next week by what I am saying to her I am running from my problems. I looked in the forums here and say that everyone was talking about the pink video. I had to see it. I got a different message. I got that I am not less than perfect. I am greatful I saw that video and I have time after time since. If you look up pink's biography you will see her childhood was bad. All her songs are from the heart and very real. She sings about what really has gone on in her life. Eminem, people misunderstand him but if you listen to his words and read his biography its heartbreaking. Music to me is personal. The person is telling their story. Maybe just a thought to ponder is that this is pink's way of getting past her self harm. We all have our stories or as I refer to mine nightmares. I am not trying to hurt or offend anyone. I just want to try to let you see it in a different perspective. That girl in that video was in deep emotional pain. We can see that better than anybody. Pink did not make it look funny or pretty. You could even see pink when she was singing it the emotions in her eyes. I haven't harmed since I watched it. I keep repeating "I am not less than perfect". For me it's working. This is just my opinion view way of looking at it. Be safe all and my thoughts are with everyone.:crying:

I really know where ur coming from in this, last nite in my OT group I was really strugglimg so I stuck the song on youtube on my fone put my head fones in and it kept me in the here and now xxx

its not that i think shes trivilisiing it, its just quite triggering to watch. but i do love the song

I agree with what you said. I love the song and the meaning behind it. I really like the video as well even tho it can trigger me on a bad day. But beside that i think its perfect! =)

yea- i don't think she was really making an offensive statement about SI. it was very triggering for me, but in a way I'm a little glad she put those parts in there. It does create awareness about bullying, eating disorders, and cutting, which is good. Though, it can be a little awkward when you're watching it with other people

I like the way you put your thoughts :) Rational and elegant :)

thank you everyone
 

Thank you for all your words. I can truly understand how it can be triggering to some. It's just my triggers are when i am in emotional pain or after a lifetime of being told I deserve it and i pushed their buttons i get to feeling their right so i do it. it really bothers me that people hate because they don't know. If you care to understand the hate no longer exists. We all know this isn't a choice we just decided one day we were going to do. I know i've tried explaining a thousand times over to my gf about my self harming and she just doesn't get it. I have even included her in a few of my therapy sessions in hopes she would understand. I am not a freak. Behind all of this harming is a great deal of pain and emotional chaos. There is shame in it too. I go to a store and even though I am wearing long sleeves sometimes the damage is seen and then I'm asked what happened and here i am not wanting to answer but struggling to give one. What do I do when I go home. What I always do harm. Those words from pinks song keep running thru my head. " you are nothing less than perfect to me". Seeing the video I get a small glimpse from watching the little girl grow up of a tad of my pain. I can relate and then I hear those words. Everytime I watch it and see her smile at her painting for some reason it gives me hope. Music is more than people realize. Its poetry its the person who wrote its life. Real stories. Sure the sound is great but I always key into the words. As a matter of fact the only way I can go to sleep and that is only for a couple of hours is to put my headphones on and fall asleep listening to music. Journaling is good and I do that but I also write poetry. I don't know and I sure don't have all the answers. I know I hate what I do to myself. I hate the state I am in at this moment. After a year break from college I start back monday. I was all excited but now my hearts racing and the fear is so strong. I keep hearing my abusive in all forms parents telling me I will never be anything. I call myself the soul that never was. No child should have to endure what I did. No person should have to endure something so horrible. I say I hate what I do to myself but I guess I should be saying I hate what my parents make me do to myself. I don't feel sorry for myself. Sad and lost yes. Self esteem issues oh yeah. My life is utter chaos and I am lost at sea. I'm scared tonight. I'm scared because the advisor at college is going to call tomorrow and it's going to be hours on the phone. I'm scared I'll end up harming before the nights over. We are what people made us. I pray my children will never be like me. stay safe everyone and sorry my post are always so long. i have a lot to say and nobody i can say it to. take care:crying:

I think the lyrics are amazing , well i mean theres such a great meaning behind it. The video... the bathroom scene got me a little. I can actually relate to the words alot.

Hugs, am here if you wanna talk.

As far as kids go, i'm 18 and i sometimes do worry what if i was to have kids and they eneded up having the problems i have done.. My life.. i didn't have the best start, bullying, sh , severe depression/ anxiety etc. So i wish my kids dont have to go through the things i went through.. I wouldn't wish them on anyone. However we can pray all we want etc but until we do have kids etc we wont know.. easy said then done sadly, but my kids my not have to go through these problems.. the only good thing is that i realise how strong i am. Omg 6 months ago i would not have said that!:-)

pink triggering
 

Well, you said it! Very positive thinking I might add. I was hit by multiple whammys. I have bipolar 1, borderline personality disorder, and ptsd. Severe child abuse in all forms by none other than my own parents. Made to marry a man who abused me for a whole lot of years. Don't let me forget I was so bullied in school I was the only sixth grader on nerve pills. That followed me until I finally quit. Longer than my marriage was I got my Ged and now I'm in college. I feel like I have everyones demons including my own to deal with and I have a huge amount of my own. For those who don't know what borderline is it's when you were so severely abused at a very very young age and on. When you are about two is when you develop your personality (who you are). When you are abused in such a horrible way you have no personality. You are who ever at the moment your around them wants you to be. You only see things in black and white no middle (gray). Oh and then there is this nasty thing I do called self harming. I know it's not trivial. Coping skills have not worked for me and I was even put in the dbt program only to be kicked out because as hard as I tried I couldn't stop harming. I know it is hard to watch the pink video. It brings our own pain forth because we can relate. Try to relate the video in the whole. Instead of one piece at a time think about how that poor little girl who had so much pain became that smiling young woman looking at her painting with a husband and a child. Not just a child but her uttering those words to her daughter Your nothing less than perfect to me. I like to think she was promising her child her life would be nothing like hers. That she would lift her up. For as long as I can remember I thought there was no one out there like me. I do my research and realize I am not alone. Maybe this video can reach out to others like us and help them see they are not alone. Put them on the right steps to connect with others to feel like less of a freak and happy to be with others who understand. I can't apologize. I have always loved pinks music but this is by far her best. I had the opposite reaction to the video. Yes it hurt to see the girl hurt but to me it was like yes someone gets it. The message it also sent was We all are not less than perfect. We just have to believe that. Hard but those words are stuck in my mind and I find them very comforting. I am so sorry it triggered others. We all have our own reasons. I have plenty for harming. I am not judging or trying to push you into anything but if you watch that video again would you please at least try to look at it like I do or just in a different way then the first time you saw it? We all were dealt a rough deck of cards or we wouldn't be harming. But like the song says We are not less than perfect. We just have to believe. I speak positive but I assure you right now is not a good time for me. I am being very triggered about the pressure of the college situation which has brought the past to haunt me again. I am fighting so hard at this very moment not to harm.:crying: