Starting again
 

So it's almost the end of my school year and it's my final year with uni next year (as i'm sure most of you know by now with me going on about it).
I'm really worried about leaving my friends and my home and starting somewhere new. I know this is something most people have trouble with but i'm seriously debating giving up on the whole uni thing because i'm being pathetic at the moment.
It's taken me 7 years to get to where i am now. I can now hug my friends and kind of talk to them about things, i'm never going to get to that again.
So my question, how have you dealt with moving away and starting something new? I'm scared i'm going to lose touch with all my friends and never make any new ones.
Any advice or things you did would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Tabby

I know how you feel, moving schools and things like that are very worrisome and stressful. It sounds like you've made a lot of progress in seven years, and that doesn't have to fall completely apart because you're starting again. I'd try if you can to hold on to the achievements you have made, and maybe attempt to build on them. I've moved schools several times, all with different results. The last move I was most unhappy about because similar to you I was leaving the first friends that I had ever been close too. What made the move a lot easier for me was staying closely in touch to my friends and talking to them frequently. You don't have to lose them just because you are moving foreward in your life. If you want to make new friends, my suggestion is just to be as open and friendly as you can. It's often seems easier to hold back and be cautious, but then there's potential to miss out on great oppertunities to meet new people and get to know them. Moving away is a huge change, I think that everyone worries about it to some extent. As scary as it is though, it can also be a wonderful oppertunity to start fresh, attempt to change things that you don't particulariy like in your life, and improve on the things that you do like. Hmmm.... It appears that I have rambled on a bit, but I hopefully that might help some. I'm sure things will work out fine for you. Things like this in my experience always seem ten times more scary and worrisome then they actually turn out to be.

Sarah

Well it wasn't really a problem with me as I went to Uni locally but you will still get to see your friends when you go home for breaks and stuff and with the wonders of the internet, you can chat to them on MSN and stuff.

You will also make new friends while at University which you may grow to trust and be able to talk to them about things as you do with your friends now.

Take care.

I haven't, no, but my best friend has moved four times in her life.
And even though she has found it hard - she hsa kept in touch with a lot of her friends and loves having so many friends in so many places!
Try and look on the bright side - you'll have links to a whole other town, which is a nice excuse for a holiday.
You'll be ok :) And RYL is always here.
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just wanted to say, I know exactly how you feel! It's taken me ages to feel secure in the group of friends I have and I really don't wanna leave them (Im going to uni in october too). I don't think that its pathetic to feel like this. Obviously I haven't done it yet, but I've talked to friends that have gone to uni and they all say that even though it's difficult everyone there is in the same boat (i.e everyone has left their friends etc) so that makes it easier. Also,one of my friends is resiting this year (she was meant to go to uni but couldn't) and she has managed to stay good friends with all her old friends who went away last year by visiting them and seeing them in the holidays, talking on msn/myspace/etc. I hope that helps you a little.
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I am going to uni aswell, so am worried about the whole finding friends thing. I have two really good friends, but at school they weren't who I hung about with most of the time. Leaving school in December I lost most friends(had kinda lost them before that though) so that wasn't too good but I still have these two. One is going into second year at uni so I already only see her during holiday time but she works alot. Internet is great and when I do see her it is just like normal! My other friend is going to uni this year aswell and will be very far away. I know this relationship will be fine cause of the internet and that during holidays we can always meet up.

I am taking advice from my old guidance teach - 'Everyone will be in the same boat really, maybe knowing one or two people if lucky, so during freshers week go out get drunk, enjoy yourself and introduce yourself to people'. Many people will be worrying about making friends, and if your old friends a very good friends these relationships can last aswell, you just need to remember that you are taking a new journey, and so will your friends, don't worry too much if it takes a while for them to email back etc, they still will care just be running around mad trying to get used to the new way of things!

I really should listen to what I have said. Sorry if I have repeated what any one else said, I just didn't read the replies!

Devil x