not sure about counselling
 

i've been seeing my current counsellor for about 8 months now and last week we agreed that we've sortof run aground and are not really getting anywhere. We've tried so many different approaches but nothing seems to be making any real difference.

I'm not sure if this makes sense but i can feel there is something wrong but i can't put my finger on exactly what it is that is wrong. She says that untill i can define the problem we can't make much more progress with counsellling.

Besides that we've dealt with other smaller issues and day to day problems but i just feel that nothing will change majorly untill i can deal with this vague undefined problem. But my counsellor is reluctant to go poking around untill we find it in case that does more damage.

So now i'm not sure what to do. Do i get my GP to send me back to the mental health team to try something else or do i give up and accept that there's nothing i can do?

I started counselling about 18 months ago when my latest bought of depression kicked in but kept getting passed from person to person so that i wasn't with any one person long enough to be able to really deal with any issue. Because of this i don't think i ever delt with what triggered it, i don't even know what it was, but maybe it was so long ago now it doesnt even matter?

Hmm interesting, if it really isn't effecting you, I would argue it's better to just move on!
But if it's holding back progress in counselling, I don't know, what about hypnotherapy ? no idea about how one would get such a thing, but it could uncover repressed memories if that's what you're looking for. Talk to your family ? Ask them if there's anything that happened in your childhood that could have effected you? x

I'm not sure if it is effecting me. It's deffinantly a nagging worry but wether it's contributing to my overall problems i really can't say. I'll try talking to my family but i'm not sure if it'll lead anywhere. It's not that they're not sympathetic, they just don't understand how difficult life is.

My counsellor decided today to end our sessions. i knew it was coming to an end but this came out of the blue, i was expecting a bit more notice than i think today should be our last session. i totally agree with her that we're not getting anywhere but at the same time i feel quite abandoned, left to fend for myself. I found it quite comforting to have that one hour set aside each week to worry about my life not everyone else'e even though i don't actually know what to do with the time any more.

I've got an appointment with my GP in a few weeks so i'll talk to him and see what he thinks about maybe going back to the mental health team.

yeah that does seem rather sudden! I wouldn't like that if it was sprung on me, I would mention that to the GP as well seems a bit unproffessional I tihnk.

Have you ever tried any type of group therapy? I know that an ED group I was in helped me discover some issues that I had buried away because talking with the other girls helped me dig them up. Just a thought :]

No i've never thought about group therapy, I've always found the idea of talking to a room full of strangers intimidating but i might reconsider.