Really frustrated *possible triggers*
 

First of all, here is my topic in the general advice area, but I wanted to get some adult input on my situation.

http://www.recoveryourlife.com/forum...d.php?t=136544

that is a bit is backstory, but the reason I brought it here is I recently found out that my ex wife is now pregnant with her new husband (who she started a relationship with while we were still married and she was pregnant with our son.) I am really struggling with this and am feeling really triggered by it. I feel like I shoul be ok with this but I am not! Now, I do not want my ex back. I know I am way better off without her negative input in my life, so that is not the issue. But I am really frustrated by this situation. I have put alot of thought into this and I think it is tied to th disconnected feeling I have from my current life and where I want to be. I feel like I am settling for what I have and she is moving on and getting rewarded when she betrayed MY trust!! I know I have no control of this situation, but I am mad that I feel like the effed up one and she is responsable for it and she gets the house I built, the life I provided, primary custody of our son and now adding to her family?!!

Anyone had a similar situation? I know I would have drunk myself stupid last night if I had not had my son with me. Tonight I am inviting a friend over to occupy my attention to not sit at home sulking over it. But I think this ties into deeper aggregation that are still unresolved, maybe I can use this to explore what else I have repressed. I would love to hear some input on this. Thanks everyone.

wish i could offer some help on advice, but i'm afraid I've never been in a situation like this or known anyone. sorry to be unhelpful *hugs*

i've been in nearly the exact same situation, minus the kids. all i can tell you is to hang in there, try not to dwell on it, and let it go. karma will bite her on the ass eventually, so keep your head up and go on to make a good life for yourself.