A Message From a Guy
 

On Facebook today, I got this message from a guy who used to make my life a total misery in primary school, he hasn't spoken to me in years and when he did in the past, it was always to say something cruel..
But this message said

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Listen Heather, I've been meaning to tell you that I think your really hot and seeing as we only live down the road from eachother i was wondering if you'd like to meet up and you know.... have some fun? Message me back x

My friend who knows him says that he is being sarcastic and has friends round with him... but I still don't know what to reply, if at all. She says I should say

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If you hadn't spent so much time making yourself seem hard in primary you might have learned to read. Check the relationship status. Taken. Dick.

But it seems a bit cruel to me... I don't want people to think I'm a horrible person, but I don't want him to think he can walk all over me and start messing with my life again...

Can anyone give me some tips on what to say to him?

I'm kind of with your friend there. Or just ignore it. That would be the most sensible thing to do. I'd be suspicious of something so out of the blue, if it was genuine I imagine he'd say something more like 'I know I was awful to you in primary school, but . . .'

Take care xx

hey, if it was me i would just ignore him completely and maybe block him/ delete him off facebook. it seems like hes just trying to be funny(although hes clearly not). like you said he made your life misery so dont give him any attention.
But if you do want to reply then just write with what your friend suggested. its not too cruel and maybe you do want to get back at him a bit but that doesnt make you a bad person. but i seriously think you should ignore him because if you reply and then he replies and it'll go back and forth then where does it end? hes just a boy who hasnt grown up and wants attention
hope this helps a little xxx

I think you should say exactly what you want to say, or your friend does. Regardless of whether friends were around him, it seems to be he wants to get together for just a hook-up. If you are in a relationship I definately think you should tell him to go away.

Being terrible to you in school doesn't always mean he's a bad person now, but the tone of the message suggests that he hasn't changed. Tell him to get out of your life and stay there in my opinion : )

yay good plan.:-D

Yeah good plan, I would have ignored the message too. Hope you're ok.

I would like to say that being horrible in primary school doesn't necessarily mean he is still horrible now. Kids are cruel and people change.

However, having said that, I would either just ignore it if you don't think you can reply in a civil manner. There's no reason why you should need to come across as mean.

im not sure if you can block him?

the reason he was horrible to you ,is probobly because he fancied you .i wouldnt know what to do ,maybe just say what you feel

this guy sounds so nasty..and needs to grow up. im sorry ignoring him wont work-hes clearly not making it easy. is there anyway you can talk to someone about this? someone at school or something?i know that'll be hard to do xx

Honestly, if he was a dick in Primary school ... I'm sorry - I just dont see people changing.

While I wouldn't say something along those lines - I would tell him to essentially **** off >.> But thats just me ^^; I have little respect for people who messed with me in high school - and if someone was only looking at me as a sex toy, I'd be that much more prone to hate them.

...Especially if they never talked to me and just pop up out of the fricken blue talking about Sex. Thats just ... disgraceful =/

I agree with what everyone else is saying, but i understand the want to give the reply that you said, but it will be easier to to ignore him and will probably not cause too many problem. I hope things work out for you.

love

LDC

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Just keep ignoring him,he will get bored.x

yeh i agree i think if you ignore him he will get bored. he wants a reaction from you- dont give him one and he'll leave you alone eventually.xx

Ok I'd either ignore him or message back saying 'cool.' and that's it. And if he emails again trying to provoke you do the same, reply just 'cool' or just ignore. That's what I'd do anyway. Hope you're ok about this whole thing.

if you reply it shows you are reading and making some sort of effort to reply to him and you are getting some reaction to it, so ignore and he will get bored.

if this is on a social networking site can you block him? if not i'd say ignore him and hopefully he'll get bored. if he keeps up with it insult him or something. him trying to hook up with you and not even apologizing for the past and not checking your relationship status are all signs he really deserves almost any answer at this point. definitely don't give him too much of a reaction though. your friend is probably right that he may be doing it just to mess with you. some people are really mean.