really in need of some hugs and reassurance plse
 

i told my counsellor today about the abuse i suffered from my brother. he's known about it from the start (about 18mths) but ive never been able to discuss it in detail, and now i have. i feel very vulnerable and agitated, and now im starting to feel low. He said it was a major breakthru for me to be able to tell him what i did, but i guess now im left feeling my skin crawl from opening up 'old wounds'. I suppose i just need someone else to verify all this is 'normal' and tht i did do the right thing.
sorry to be so needy
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I am glad you were able to talk it through though. I guess it is harder in some ways when you know that what is going unsaid is what is hurting most. I'm proud that you were strong enough, I havent been yet!
*hug*
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You did the right thing hun, 100%. It's always difficult, of course it is, but now that you've told someone, hopefully you can begin to heal. It won't be easy, or quick, but you can make it through this. well done for speaking out hun. *hugs times a million*
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Yes, it's totally normal.

My pm box is always open if you need a listening ear.

thnx guys *hugs u all back* god, i feel so grim.. its all just intruding on my everythoughts .. is it ever going to go away *sigh*
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hun dont be sorry for posting thats what we are here for...

and what you did and what you are feeling is normal and to be honest i so proud of you too

*BIG HUGE HUGS*

from kaz

*hugs*
You've taken the first huge leap on the road to recovery, you've overcome one of the hardest parts. Well done!
It is totally normal to feel the way you do after telling someone what's been a secret for so long.
Take care and congratulations

.x.

thanks guys.
you know when u tell a counsellor something and they do tht bit where they sum things up afterwards, i guess to see whether theyve interpreted it right or something,well mine said he felt angry and tht he was gonna stop talking because he wasnt supposed to feel tht way. I know he wasnt angry with me, but im guessing the people involved, but is tht common? idk. just wondering i suppose.
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It is normal to feel how you are feeling. I can't mention anything that happened without that whole opening up new wounds thing. Your councilor says he was angry but that won't be towards you. He will be angry at what happened. This is a normal human reaction even if councilors are not meant to get emotionally involved.

yeah sweety thats normal. my councillor calls my abuser "the bastard" quite frequently. she gets so wound up about it. i like to see it though. shows he did do something wrong. you done a really brave thing talking about it. i know how hard it is. samxxx