i think i have BPD
 

how should i tell my therapist?

Well you could say just that. "I think I have bpd" and go on to explain why you think that. Some therapists don't like paitients who try and come up with their own diagnosis and as far as I'm concerned those therapists are doing both them and the patient a big dis-service.

You could also phrase it as a question, such as "I was reading about these symptoms and noticed a lot of them coincide with bpd, do you think I have that?"

You shouldn't.
Your profile says you are 14 and personality disorders are not diagnosed in under 18's because a lot of the traits such as mood swings and confusion about identity are a normal part of growing up.
Also therapists are not diagnosticians, only psychiatrists and doctors can do that.
Talk to your therapist about the issues and problems you are having so she can help you work through them, that'd be a much more useful way of using your sessions than talking about a label that doesn't apply to you with someone who has no ability to decide wether that label fits or not.

I think im really sick of saying dont self-diagnois.

But do you really want this lable/diagnosis, as said they cant diagnoise you until your 18 anyway

Ditto

It is difficult to live with a diagonosis, and I agree with all the comments above, try not to self-diagnose.

Your therapist would probably be aware if you have symptoms of BPD etc.

Sorry this isn't much help, but take care of yourself =]

The thing i have foundc with BPD is it is just a name, just a box to put you in. There is nother they will give you to make you feel better, know mirical drung. I just found stuff like self harm, low mood and even suicide attempts get ingnored by the mental health profeshonals wirh coments such as "you have BPD this is to be expected and its a part of your life. and "you are clearly attention seeking as you have BPD."
Mental healf profeshionals will be only to quick to diagnose you with BPD, for a searous and horabel illnes the diagnosos is thrown about a lot, and it actualy helps noting in the end.

i agree but thats not completley true a few people i know have bpd and there like 16/on ward from 18
but i agree with the fact because ur at that age mood swings are normally a hormonal teenage thing

I didn't realize you're 14. That does change things a bit. Most therapists are going to be VERY reluctant to diagnose you with a personality disorder at such a young age. The reason for this is your personality is still developing.

Here in Canada a psychologist can diagnose, I don't know who can diagnose where you live. I don't think this means you can't bring up the question whether or not they feel you have it. Just the answer will probably be no or that its too early to tell.

And I should have mentioned before that there is a lot of stigma attached with bpd. It can actually make it harder for you to get help in the future. Sometimes even if you have it, its better to not be diagnosed with it and to just continue working on the issues you have.

If you are keen on a diagnosis, speak to a Dr or Psychiatrist - only they can diagnose. The chances are the specialist will observe your symptoms until you are considered to have or not have a specific issue (i.e until you are at least 16 - 18 yrs old) and will not diagnose anything specific before then.

For your therapist, discuss what have been issues for you and not just what fits a label and see if there are ways to work through or with them.

it's all been said.
You do NOT want this as a DX. I'm STILL fighting to have this removed!
Just focus on the issues you are struggling with and try to forget a DX. You are too young to have one, and you do not really want one at this age.
I understand the desire to 'know what is wrong' tho.

Either

1.) They are lying, they have 'traits of it', have been told this, and assumed they have it.
2.) They have an unofficial diagnosis, informal, not a 'proper' diagnosis

The recommendation is that you are not diagnosed until after turning 21, unfortunately psychiatrists often ignore this and do it the moment you turn 18 (like they did with me) only to discover that the symptoms warrnating the diagnosis were due to being a teenager going through tough times (also like with me) and then have the fun of having to get it removed (I'm with Romp here, it's **** diagnosis and **** to try and have removed).

Furthermore,

It is classified in the ICD 10 as -F99)
Disorders of adult personality and behaviour


Therefore, unless you are an adult, you cannot be diagnosed,

Furthermore,

I am very sorry not to have helped the original threadstarter in this, I just felt I needed to comment in case of confusion. I do hope you feel better soon OP, without needing to self diagnose.

You can be diagnosed with an 'emerging' PD between 16 and 18.
But if you're 14, you will not be diagnosed with it, as has been said before. Not to say that you aren't experiencing problems, just that this horrible sticky label will not be used on you.

^ I think that's true, I'm sure I've read that if the symptoms are present in an adolescent for more thana year, it is possible to be diagnosed with BPD.

But yeah, seriously, not a label you want to be stuck with. Deal with the problems, not with a potential label.

Don't tell your therapist about the label; tell your therapist about the behaviours and emotions, and work on those with them to help you get to a safe & stable place.

xx