Anyone think it'd be rude of me to put a large post it note above my sink directing my sil to rinse her dishes and put them in the bin rather than leaving nasty dishes in my clean sink? i plan to sign it 'yours truely, the person that cleans this apartment'... i've been thinking of putting notes like these all over the house. i mean for pete's sake i've had almost 3 lbs of cheese go missing overnight, the trash doesn't go out when it should, every morning i come into the kitchen to see the sink full of unrinsed dishes (i clean out and dry my sink every night)... and it's stomping on my last nerve. last night after being told 'it's just one box jeez' i got pissed off and went to bed... it's one box that's been waiting to go to the trash for over a week that keeps being tripped on because she leaves it in the middle of the floor that the adults told her to get taken out 3 times and the children told her 4 times last night alone and it's her only chore! She took out the rest of it when she was bitched at but not 'just one box'... so frustrating! and between my ocd kicking in and that i've been making an effort to keep house better in an effort to feel better...grrrrrrr
... sorry about the mini rant guys it's just i'm getting to the point where i know she's d's sister but i'm tempted to tell her where to go and how to get there... it seems she just wants to use us and assumes our generosity and hospitality will last forever and it doesn't but then on the other hand if i am the one that gets pissed and evicts her then d will go back to saying 'you just can't live with anyone, can you?' it's a no win situation and i will end up looking like the crazy bitch either way.
again sorry i just had to get that out somewhere since it's been bugging me for a while...

yeah, Lia, it makes total sense if you think about it the way we do but most are stuck on their own way of seeing things.

*hugs Charlie, Mark, Lia*

I'm ok mostly, Charlie... just been in one of my moods where I wasn't up for talking much... been keeping up mostly though. :)

*Hugs Crimson*
I'm glad you're ok, Don't worry about not wanting to talk hun, take your time :)
And I think it would be ok to put the note :) lol

You're NOT a crazy Bitch Crimson , Could you sit her and your husband down? (Hubby as a witness) and say " look m this is all I ask you do , please do it" That way she will know and your husband will know that you have asked her . *Hugs You*

*Hugs Charlie*

*Hugs Mark*
I can't wait until I can leave home. I swear the second it turns midnight on my 18th birthday I am out of here -.-

*offers hug to oliver*
hmm if its an ex... could he just be saying to make you feel bad? i dunno

*cuddles charlie*

<3

that's the odd thing about his family, Mark. If he says something they're pissy about it and he will tell them do what you're supposed to or move out but then he never follows through... He mother and 2-3 of his sisters lived with us for 3 YEARS of this now it's just the one sister and it's getting ridiculous the lengths she'll go to... for crying out loud last night she took a shower for almost an hour and a half so she wouldn't have to help with the groceries... i know that's why because she got in right after she found out i was going, got a call to help us (mother in law and i) and said 'i can't i'm in the shower' so between us we brought up about 100-150 lbs of stuff by ourselves up 3 flights of stairs after carrying it through the snow and ice to the door and as soon as we got it up there and mil said she was leaving sil decided to get out. she was out and dressed not 5 minutes after her mum said she was leaving. but he babies them (his sisters) because they had a crappy childhood and has even admitted that if it were my family they wouldn't have been let stay for 3 yrs like his family was. and he's the one that's told her repeatedly to do her chore and threatened to kick her out if she doesn't do it. it's all a bit ridiculous to me but if i say something it starts a big fight or he says i just hate his family or some other such nonsense... hell last time he said i just hated his sister g (after him saying it a good half dozen times) i said 'yeah i guess i do' and walked away... that didn't go over very well...
i honestly think though, that a fair chunk of my depression or worsening there of is because of all the clutter and the mess and my ocd going haywire from all the b.s. so i'm trying to fix it but then i end up where my 4 yr old knows to put stuff away and where things go but my 19 yr old sil doesn't or doesn't care (and snaps at the kids 'for being rude' when they tell her) *shakes head*
*hugs mark and charlie* but thanks for saying i'm not a crazy bitch :)

Having Issues Charlie ? *Hugs*

*Hugs Heather* Hows you?

cuddles charlie, mark, crimson, lia, solo, sarah
hmm i feeling low again tonight. trying to put a brave face on as my brother is up. just want it all to end

I'm sorry Crimson, I don't have a family of my own so don't know these issues myself . I know the whole OCD thing , when I get anxious or stressed it go's nut's , Man I wish I had adivice , I'm crap sorry. PM or e-mail me anytime Crimson hun I'll do my best to help :)

*Cuddles Heather, Crimson and Mark*
Yeah Mark, my family are just doing my head in. My mums gone through my room again, my sisters calling me a freak, and all of you, and everyone who does DBT. Apparently anyone with mental health issues are complete freaks and weirdos, and we should all be locked up :(

*hugs heather, jill, mark, charlie*offers jill a plushie for bravery*
Some days Mark I just wish I could pick and choose my inlaws lol
So how long do you have to wait Charlie?

Till I'm 18? 1 year, 11 weeks, 2 days. (yes, I'm counting :P)

i knew you would be lol

lol. Gotta turn 17 first though.... :(

*Hugs Charlie*

*Hugs Crimson* I'm looking into books and I know you recommended one by Margot something , could you PM me the surname please? :S sorry

Do you mean Drawing Down the Moon by Margot Adler?

Thankyou Crimson , copy / pastes it

nevermind. curls up in corner

*Curls up*

my office now looks like an ocd explosion... i just labeled about 35 boxes of files in my search for one file... but i can find **** easier now.
np Mark, glad to help :) *hugs*
*hugs Jill and Charlie* What's up? *offers plushies and chocolate*

*Cuddles Crimson*
I suppose thats a good thing though, I'm sure you feel a lot better for it? :)
Thanks for the chocolate :D I think i'm gonna have to explain some stuff to my mum............

hugs crimson, chocolate sweet deff need some tonight, lot of drama going on in real life tonight. =[

Better but tired... hefting full file boxes to make them stack 8 high along a wall is hard lol
~shhh it's a secret chocolate is magical... it always makes us feel better too :D~
Going to be a long explanation? or expecting her not to understand?

*Hugs Jill and Crimson.*
Both. How do you tell your mum you don't want to be a girl anymore, but you don't want to be a boy either?! Gonna be fun.....I would't have said anything, but she walked in on me trying to bandage my breasts back. Thats when she asked the question 'do you want a willy?'..............erm?

Hmmm... Good question. Although the simplest answer is always just to answer her question with a no. I'm sure eventually she'll ask more though...

Yeah, I just thought It might be easier to get it out there while she's asking questions.....

Hey. I know I've only posted in here once or twice and no one really knows me but I've had a full on day and I'm feel like a terrible person. I just need a reason not to punish myself.

Do you have a support group regarding it? Or know of one in your area? If you do they may be able to give you some idea of what to say... even a trans group may be able to help some. And if the conversation goes badly then you'd have people to talk to about it who would at least partially understand.

Why do you think you need punishing Gill?

*spots and hugs solo and oliver!*

Not really, Theres not really many people who are transgender around here, let alone Neutrois. :( I'm currently using google to try and find what to say to her...

~Hugs everyone~ Hey Crimson, could I please have some chocolate?

*hugs Charlie* I can PM you some good sites if you want and you know I'm here if you need any advice, or someone to talk to about trans stuff.

*hugs all*

so the day got better, was terrified about being on the panel this evening, but it went ok and so many people were so nice to me after, one random person came upto me at the end and said I was a role model to him because I was just a regular guy, who wasn't getting paid money and was speaking out. He said even though I'm younger tha him he still see's me as a role model and thats just on being on a panel tonight

*Hugs Oliver* Would you mind PMing me the sites? I would be very grateful :)

done Charlie :)

*passes chocolate to Solo and Oliver*
That's awesome, Oliver!
I'm sorry Gill, I can't focus enough to get all the way through your post, however, I think it's a good thing that your boss knew something was wrong and was proactive and helpful to try and make things better. (I did get that far in the most current post in the thread)

Hey :)

*Hugs Mark*

*Hugs Charlie*

*Hugs Lia*

*Hugs Solo*

*Hugs Crimson*

*Hugs Oliver*

*Hugs Pointless*

*Hugs Rawrr*

~Hugs Ian~

Thanks :) How are you solo? Hows everyone else?

hugs all, damn im such a shitty, selfish bit*h i really want to hurt myself i so deserve it

*Hugs Shadow* Your not a selfish bitch. I'm sorry that you feel like hurting yourself. Do you want to talk some more about whats going on for you?

hmm not sure were to begin, been a crazy night, thats not over yet. dont think im going to get much sleep tonight

~Ian~ been better hun! How are you?

*Hugs Jill*
*Hugs Charlie*
*Hugs Crimson*
*Hugs Gill*
*Hugs Solo*
*Hugs Oliver*
*Hugs Ian*


I'm up a LITTLE earlier than usual , I was awake so got up , Feel disapointed in myself . How is everyone this morning?

*Hugs everyone*

*hugs ward*

*Hugs Felicia* How are you?

I hate myself today. Story of my life.
How are you? *hugs*

*Hugs* Do you know whats making you hate yourself? Do something nice for yourself, go shopping if you have any money lol, or take a long hot bubble bath and just look after yourself a bit :)
I'm feeling similar, I hate my body :(