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Sketchy 25-10-2017 07:13 PM

They’ve finally stopped.

Yay well done on getting your homework done.

Cpt_Stunning 25-10-2017 07:14 PM

my parents want me to live in sheltered housing, is that where you are, sorry to ask, just wondered what it's like?

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 07:14 PM

That sounds annoying Lorraine!

Well done for doing your homework katy!!

Ive lived in sheltered housing before.
I dont now though.

Sketchy 25-10-2017 07:15 PM

No, I’m not in sheltered housing.

Cpt_Stunning 25-10-2017 07:21 PM

my parents control my finances because of my anxiety, & say I have enough money for my own flat in maybe sheltered housing, but I'll say no, flats are so expensive, & bills on top, plus I'll have no-one to come home to, I've friends where I am.

& I have hardly any stuff, only keep things that I really need.

Everyone always talks about progression, moving forward, improving, I'm just happy to carry on the way I'm going.

Sketchy 25-10-2017 07:23 PM

If you are happy where you are then that is fair enough. It’s good you are happy where you live.

Cpt_Stunning 25-10-2017 07:28 PM

I think it's difficult for them to understand, because neither of them lived in a shared house with other people who are basically strangers, but you get to know after a while. They got married in 1971, moved straight from living with their parents into their first house, they wanted a house for 6,250, but settled for a house which cost 6,000, because they felt they couldn't afford the extra 250, & no, I'm not joking.:tongue2:

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 07:30 PM

If you're happy then that should be ok.
If it ain't broke don't fix it!

Sketchy 25-10-2017 07:31 PM

Can you imagine if houses cost that now? It probably is hard for them to imagine, but it sounds like you like where you live.

I’m used to living on my own. I’ve been living on my own for ten years, but in three different flats. Been in this one the longest.

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 07:34 PM

I was talking about the whole houses costing less situation with my care coordinator today funnily enough!

Ive been living alone for 5 years now.
Been here the longest, about 3 years now.
I cant imagine living with people again!

Sketchy 25-10-2017 07:38 PM

Me neither. I’m lucky that my sister’s flat is four doors away from mine, so I’m not lonely. She’s only been in the area for a year and a half though.

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 07:40 PM

I have no local friends.
I don't feel particularly lonely.

Sketchy 25-10-2017 07:42 PM

I think you get used to living alone so you don’t feel lonely. I know I’ve got used to it. I couldn’t imagine living with other people right now.

Cpt_Stunning 25-10-2017 07:43 PM

They do mean well, I think they're looking for me to experience life in a flat, where I am now, it's just a small room in a shared house, 13 rooms, it's a big house, bills are included, cleaner comes round.

They want me to eventually get a mortgage & own my own place rather than paying rent, but you don't actually own it as such for about 25 years, the bank owns it.

I've had this argument with other people, where I am the contract's ended so I only have to give 1 month's notice to move out, no problems. If I 'owned' my flat, & knew I'd would have trouble keeping up mortgage payments, I couldn't just move out, it'd cause a lot of problems. There is a very heavy culture of having to get a mortgage in the UK, I think, I know that a lot of countries are a lot more rent orientated.

Sketchy 25-10-2017 07:47 PM

You are right. There is a lot of pressure to own a house, but it’s so expensive and a big commitment. I’m in no position to get a mortgage, so I have to be content with renting just now.

Cpt_Stunning 25-10-2017 07:52 PM

It's so good that your sister lives so close to you. I don't see that much of my family nowadays, & school friends never nowadays, I do have new friends, but it's not the same as people you've known for years or decades.

Sketchy 25-10-2017 07:53 PM

It is nice to have people you’ve known for decades, but it’s good you have new friends. I have new friends too that I feel like I’ve known forever.

Cpt_Stunning 25-10-2017 07:55 PM

in your writing & art groups?

Sketchy 25-10-2017 07:56 PM

Yes, from writing groups. I met them at a writing evening class and we started our own groups.

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 08:01 PM

I dont think ive got anyone ive known for decades other than family!
Have a couple of old school friends on FB but i dont speak to them.

Sketchy 25-10-2017 08:18 PM

My best friend I’ve known since I was 16. We met on our first weekend job and stayed friends.

Buttons. 25-10-2017 08:38 PM

I have carers coming in so I guess sort of supported housin. Couldn't bear living with someone else again though.

Also other than family pretty much no one I've known for decades.

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 08:39 PM

Thats lovely!

Ive only known my best friend for about 4 years I think?
Our friendiversary is on march 1st :p

Sketchy 25-10-2017 08:44 PM

Friendiversary. I like that!

Buttons. 25-10-2017 08:44 PM

Enjoy the 1st!

Where's our friendaversary though -_-

Sketchy 25-10-2017 08:45 PM

That means I’ve been best friends with s for 19 years. That’s a long time!

Buttons. 25-10-2017 08:45 PM

Yeah Lorraine you might be breaking up a fight again :P

Sketchy 25-10-2017 08:45 PM

Oh no, are you two going to start fighting again?

Sketchy 25-10-2017 08:46 PM


Buttons. 25-10-2017 08:46 PM

Only if she doesn't give me a friendaversery

Buttons. 25-10-2017 08:47 PM

also 19 years impressive!

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 08:50 PM

Dude you could arrange the friendiversay!
Dont leave it all on me!!

19 years is impressive!!

Sketchy 25-10-2017 08:50 PM

I know, it feels like just yesterday we were kids. I’m having a text conversation with her just now. If I mention our 19 years she might get upset because it means we’re old. I always like to remind her that she’s four months older than me.

Buttons. 25-10-2017 08:53 PM

Dude I gave you a HP box YOU OWE ME.

That's awesome Lorraine although agree mentioning 19 years might not be tactful.

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 08:55 PM

Shut up Katy :p
(Am too tired for witty comebacks)

Sketchy 25-10-2017 08:55 PM

Don’t make me come between you two again!

Buttons. 25-10-2017 08:59 PM

Lorraiiiiiine she told me to shut uuuuuuuuuuuuuuup.

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 09:00 PM

She started it!!!!

Sketchy 25-10-2017 09:00 PM

Now now Katy. It’s not nice to snitch!

Sketchy 25-10-2017 09:01 PM

Right, both of you are on a time out!

Buttons. 25-10-2017 09:03 PM

Hey I had good reason to snitch :P

And SHE started it.

I refuse to go to time out. Yeah I'm a hard core rebel.

Sketchy 25-10-2017 09:05 PM

*grows redder with anger and goes on tiptoes to increase the 5 foot 1 height.*


Cacoethes 25-10-2017 09:06 PM

*goes to time out*

See, im behaving!
Unlike SOME people!

Sketchy 25-10-2017 09:07 PM

Well done Beckie.

Now Katy, can’t you follow Beckie’s example?

Buttons. 25-10-2017 09:08 PM

Okay I'm now scared of all 5'1 of you-I'm 5 2 1/2 beat that :P

And you are such a suck up Beckie!

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 09:08 PM

*sits smugly*

I'm 5ft 7

Buttons. 25-10-2017 09:08 PM

NO *has tantrum*

Sketchy 25-10-2017 09:09 PM

I may be short, but I can be scary when I choose to be.

Are we going to have our time out now?

Sketchy 25-10-2017 09:10 PM

*goes all loud and crazy, throws own tantrum *

Cacoethes 25-10-2017 09:10 PM

Im going to bed before this gets really out of hand.


Night all

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