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The One Who 17-09-2010 07:32 PM

I know the feeling of having loads of appointments one day and nothing the next. You don't need to apologise for feeling low though *hugs*

Sarah (? Sorry, I'm rubbish at names!) that does sound quite stressful for you. I suggest talking to the uni and letting them know how you are feeling, if they don't already know.

one_step_closer 17-09-2010 07:36 PM

I got my medical records today. Pissed off.

SparkleKitten 17-09-2010 07:40 PM

Yeah Claire its Sarah, most of my lecturers know my situation from last year, but I'll make sure my tutor knows, can't talk to head of maths because he won't let anyone have any abscences, his attitude hasn't helped anything, I'm in a bit of a panic. Got to pay for my counselor and things. Going to a voulenteer meeting to go work Saturdays with kitties, hopefully I'll be able to. Its odd of after a year in my degree I still haven't crushed the dream of working with animals, not sure what to do after this degree but I do kinda want to go work with animals, though no idea what doing, animals just make me happier than people do.

The One Who 17-09-2010 07:45 PM

I've finished my degree and I still don't know what I want to do! Part of my still wants to hold on to the PhD -> academia route, but another wants to get a career with a bit more stability in it. Academia really does not offer that.

If you let your tutor know they might be able to offer you some flexibility? I only know how my department works really. I think the volunteering thing sounds like it would be good for you.

Doikers 17-09-2010 07:53 PM

What about your medical records has pissed you off Lindsay ? *Hugs*

life-hurts 17-09-2010 07:57 PM

THankyou Mark and Felicia for your welcome messages.

Felicia I am sorry to hear your struggling at the mo. it is hard when you feel out of step with everyone else.I hope you have a better day tomorrow

Claire I'm glad to hear you had a good day!

Sarah -sorry to hear that you did not have such a good day. I'm struggling with my Ou course at the moment. I'm working really hard to not let it get me down. I always seem to f*** up anything academic. Not because I can't do it just because I struggle to not self destruct :blush: Hope you get your uni and money problems sorted soon. Is there a money adviser at your Uni that may be able to help?
Lindsay- What pissed you off that was in your medical records? Were they innacurate or something or just made stupid assumptions?

I've thought about requesting my medical records but I guess I'm scared I'd be too pissed off and not want to use mental health services and at the moment I really feel I need the support. On the other hand I hate the idea of my records being innacurate! No win either way I suppose. I believe that you can ask for them to be changed or annotated if their are innacuracies though.

To everyone who I've not said hi to, hello! Hope you all had an Ok day and I look forward to getting to know you all.

If you want you can use my first name Hannah.

SparkleKitten 17-09-2010 07:57 PM

I don't know, I'm only just starting back but I'm driving myself crazy with it. I guess I'm more anxious about restarting than I thought I would be. :(

MammaMia 17-09-2010 08:01 PM

Still slowly catching up with posts.

*hugs ward*

I'm so angry :@

Doikers 17-09-2010 08:03 PM

Hannah , thats such a cool name . My Sister is named Hannah and so is my Best Friend :) I collect Hannahs ! heh *Hugs if okay*

*Hugs Sarah*

*Hugs Helen* Why are you so angry ?

SparkleKitten 17-09-2010 08:27 PM

Mum had a go at me this morning because I haven't been showering or washing my hair as often as I used to, or wearing my contact lenses. Truth is I have to set my alarm 30 minutes before I'm due to get up so I can work up some motivation to get out of bed. Some days its too much effort to take pain meds for my gallbladder or have a drink of water. Feel almost like I'm stuck in a rut.

Doikers 17-09-2010 08:51 PM

*Hugs Sarah* That sounds so much like my Depression it's scary , sorry I know that doesn't help but know that you're not alone , I really can empathise with you .

SparkleKitten 17-09-2010 08:57 PM

Does help me Mark. I now know someone who knows how I feel, which is comforting, its not just me

Scarletdreamer 17-09-2010 09:05 PM

Welcome, by the way, Hannah!! :) I'm April and I used to post more, usually just lurk now and post every now and then. But I'll try to get back to posting more frequently... hehe. *hugs if okay?*

Sarah, I'm sorry that you've had a crappy day. Wish I could help you feel better. :( *cuddles* I also agree that the volunteering should be good for you. Kitties = <3. :)

Claire, I agree with you in that I also don't know what I want to do with my life!!! I mean, kind of like Sarah, animals make me happier than people do and I REALLY LOVE horses/cats/dogs/goats/sheep (those are my favorites :P)... but... at the same time, I want to make a difference in the world in a good way (don't a lot of/most people?) so working with people would, in that way, be more fulfilling. Especially because I could "pass on my legacy" (which is I don't know what just yet, hah) since Jarrod and I probably won't be having a family. Biologically almost definitely not. Adoption is a possibility but I really don't want to be a mum. :-X Anyway, that was totally a tangent. ;) I have kind of thought of getting my PhD and going into academia as well, following my dad's footsteps (and mum's too at that)... here in the States I think it may be a little more stable? as my dad's been at the same university for going on 19 years, and it's not uncommon to see people staying at the same uni for their entire careers. Anyway. :) *cuddles*

Mark, sorry you're not feeling too well. I also know the feeling of having a zillion appointments to make it to in one day. This coming week is going to be hellish for me (sorry, I know it's NOT all about me, just trying to relate!!) because I have therapy on Monday then nutritionist and NP on Wednesday. Urk. Not happy about that. But anyway... I take it that you're rather triggered? :-S *cuddles*

Hels, what are you so angry about?? *cuddles*

Lindsay, what's pissed you off about your medical records? *hugs*

I've just gotten reinspired to write in my paper journal by this site: http://www.journalingsaves.com. It's an AMAZING site so if you're at all interested in journaling (beginner journaler or not) it's FASCINATING!!! :D I spent over an hour perusing the articles that are up there. So awesome. :P I know, I know, I'm a nerd, but I think we all knew that already. Hehe.

I'm feeling kind of low today but meh. I'm happy that Jarrod's going back to work... it's a HUGE relief when it comes to finances. :) So that's good. I'm just worried about the LCA... but I'm sure that he'll be careful enough to avoid getting "terminated" (hah, that sounds so scary... like the Terminator... :P).

Anywho. I'm gonna read some more of the Journaling Saves articles nao. :D

SoMuchMore 17-09-2010 09:17 PM

*sits invisibly*

I'm feeling a little burnt out.

FlyingNy 17-09-2010 10:02 PM

*Hugs all, extra hard hugs to Laura.*

I can feel myself falling into that dark place. It's not good there. I do stupid things.

Scarletdreamer 17-09-2010 10:11 PM

*cuddles Laura and Lia*
*glomps Lia 'cause I spy her!!!*

Laura, hon, I'm sorry that you're feeling burnt out. I'm also sorry that it might've seemed as though I ignored your post. :-/ Didn't do so intentionally but in retrospect I can see where you may have gotten that impression. What's up, though? just feel like you're doing too much? :( *extra cuddles*

Lia, is there anything I/we can do to help?? :( *gentle hugs*

shadowedsoul 17-09-2010 10:13 PM

cuddles all, had a really sh&t day at work. just feel numb and completely out of it, very spacey. really want to drink and feel numb and shut out the world rright now even if its for one night. meh.

FlyingNy 17-09-2010 10:15 PM

I just need to keep busy. I'm writing and in a waiting room for a hotline. Writing's keeping me sane right now. I think it's kept me sane for a long while now.

*Hugs April.* I missed you.

FlyingNy 17-09-2010 10:15 PM

*Hugs Jill* try not to do anything stupid honey. Talk to us on here, distract yourself with something.

Scarletdreamer 17-09-2010 10:29 PM

*cuddles Lia* I've missed you too. <3 I'm glad that writing is keeping you sane. That journaling website I mentioned earlier might be a good place for you to go to as it's very interesting and rather funny. :) Not Christian but meh, it doesn't really matter when you're talking about journaling. And it was a very good distraction for me (and offers some very good journaling tips :D). Anyway, just a thought. I thought I recalled that you were also a journaler so maybe it would help distract you, I dunno. Sorry if I am totally off track. *extra cuddles*

I'm really tired. But no nap(s) today!!! That is an accomplishment for me. Just like SI, I think I am going to cut naps out of my life. ;) (Speaking of SI - coming up on 12 weeks free, without slip ups!!!... hopefully I don't jinx myself... :-S) Meh. This afternoon has kinda been blah, I don't know. Haven't played WoW for awhile, I think I'm kind of on hiatus, I really don't know. I wish I understood what was up with that. :-/

I really need to talk with my bestie. Even though she's a flake (and readily admits it, and knows that I think she is), or rather, can be flaky, hehe, she's a lovely person and I love her very much as a friend and sister (in Christ). And I miss being able to talk with her every week or even every other week. I mean yeah, we have phones, but somehow it's difficult to arrange a time to talk. But she's coming "home" (i.e., back to this area) this weekend which means I'll get to see her. ^_^ This makes me happy. I hope that we can hang out some this weekend as well... *crosses fingers*

Mmmmrrraarrghhhh................... :'(

Scarletdreamer 17-09-2010 10:31 PM

Oh & Jill, honey, I (and probably others here) am (are) noticing a trend... you're turning to alcohol more and more. You said it would be just that one time... but it's not. Please try to be careful with that, okay, sweetie? And no, I am not condemning you for turning to it, I can totally understand wanting to shut out the world for a time - even though I've never drunk or gotten drunk - but I do understand the desire. Just... please don't let it become an addiction. :-S *cuddles* And please, please don't do anything stupid. We would all miss you here, I can promise you that.

shadowedsoul 17-09-2010 10:42 PM

cuddles both april and lia. dont worry you two, probley no point in saying this, but ah well, im okay even if i dont sound it. thanks you both.

FlyingNy 17-09-2010 10:58 PM

Jill, I don't think you really are. I convince myself that I am sometimes too. And like April said, don't let this turn into an addiction. I understand why you want to. I know why you would want to just to anything to block it all out because you can't handle the pain and need to be rid of it, just free for a few moments. But it will only add to your problems. We're always here for you.

Scarletdreamer 17-09-2010 11:00 PM

I agree with Lia, Jill, sweetie - I don't think that you really are okay. Like Lia, sometimes I try to "convince" myself that I'm okay by telling myself that I am - or telling others that I am, in the hopes that it will convince me - but it rarely works. What's up? You know that you can talk to us... we're here for you. :) *cuddles gently*

Kahlia1981 17-09-2010 11:10 PM

*huggles all who can accept them & waves at the others*

*waves at Hannah* - Hi and welcome to the VPW. Jump right in and I hope you find what you need here.

Mark & Laura: I'm currently on two meds for mood-stabilisation - the lithium and the topamax and I'm going to request the removal of the lithium. I know that it seems like a risky situation but I think I know what I'm doing. Thank you both for your concern however and please accept some big *hugs*.

*huggles April* - Just had to say you made me laugh out loud (literally) when I read the terminated/Terminator bit in your post before.

*walks around and offers everyone hugs before going out in the garden to play with Puppy SinClair*

shadowedsoul 17-09-2010 11:33 PM

hugs you both. i know i can, just struggle getting how i feel into words. really rubbish at. sorry. tend to keep it to myself untill it gets to a point, were i need to do somthing. i know that sounds stuiped. meh

xxjuliexx 18-09-2010 12:04 AM

i feel like i'm a bad wardy for not posting much *frowns*

SparkleKitten 18-09-2010 12:33 AM

My hands are playing up tonight. :( its so painful, they're just progressively getting worse as the night continues.

MammaMia 18-09-2010 01:00 AM


Originally Posted by Doikers (Post 2494010)
*Hugs Helen* Why are you so angry ?


Originally Posted by Scarletdreamer (Post 2494098)
Hels, what are you so angry about?? *cuddles*

My best friend had some bad news on Thursday. So I was worried when I hadn't had any texts from her yesterday, by the time it was getting towards evening. When her Gran got in touch and acted like I'd done something wrong (my best friend's sister clearly been feeding her lies about me again) and turns out, my best friend had fell out of window in her sleep :'( Not jumped, as a suicide attempt, as originally thought. So yeah, was pretty ****ed off at things that got said, which were incredibly hurtful and one text was incredibly emotionally blackmailing.


Originally Posted by Fallinstar0317 (Post 2494115)
*sits invisibly*

I'm feeling a little burnt out.

*cuddles tight* Sorry you're feeling burnt out. You're not invisible though :)


Originally Posted by IceQueenHasAHeart (Post 2494180)
I can feel myself falling into that dark place. It's not good there. I do stupid things.

*cuddles tight* Is there anything you can do to avoid that dark place? Or to help ease it?


Originally Posted by xxjuliexx (Post 2494294)
i feel like i'm a bad wardy for not posting much *frowns*

You're not a bad wardy Julie *offers hugs*

Lindsay, what's pissed you off about your medical records darling?

Sarah, I'm sorry you're in so much pain.

Hannah, welcome to the ward :D I'm one of the orginals yay :D Hope you settle in well here.

Kahlia *hugs tight*

Claire, glad to see you're doing better.

*hugs rest of the wardies*

I'm off to bed. Sorry I've not posted much over past few days. Been busy with college & then other stuff and keep posting in here and then forgetting to check back when I am free :/

Scarletdreamer 18-09-2010 01:05 AM

*glomps Hels and Lia 'cause I spy them!!* :) <3 you two. <3 all of you!!

Kahlia, glad I could make you laugh. :) *huggles*

Jill, all I can say is... please be careful. *gentle hugs*

Sarah, I'm sorry about your hands... :( If I may ask, what's wrong with them? I mean, do you have a diagnosis or anything? (sorry if that's a dense question or if you've mentioned before) *cuddles*

Ugh ugh ugh. I don't know what's the matter with me. I don't want to say "I'm depressed" but that's really what it looks like. I mean, I'm bipolar and yes I know I can have depressive episodes but I REALLY ****ING MISS being hypomanic. I WANT to be flying high again. :'( But here's what's been going on with me in case any of you can relate:
- it's been an outright struggle for me to get out of bed in the mornings. This is not like me at all. I usually bounce right out of bed, even if I have no place to go, by 6:30am at the latest. Ever since Jarrod started his suspension 3 weeks ago he's been having trouble getting up and apparently (or so I thought) I just didn't wake up unless he was the one getting up/waking me up. But we've been setting an alarm lately for 6:10am and I've just been lying there, in bed, covers over my damn head, dreading the day, despite the fact that I had nowhere to go.
- this may sound really small and kind of stupid to you, but (remember I'm a strings player, and you HAVE to have really short fingernails to play most instruments, and I've just gotten into the habit over the years of trimming my nails VERY short, so short it looks like I'm a nail biter) over the past few weeks I let my nails grow very long (well, to me). I've NEVER done that, to my recollection anyway, and only today did I get up the energy to trim them.
- don't want to take showers/baths even though I've been forcing myself to do so, even though I go nowhere.
- no desire to leave the apartment, in fact, haven't left it since yesterday morning and then only because my mum and I had a scheduled activity.
- been crying more over "silly" things like the past and old dreams (that was tonight).
- been missing SI more and more. Have accidentally scratched myself with a ring that I have (nothing that would leave a mark) and the pain meant nothing to me. Nothing. That felt like an extreme loss. :(
- been trying to find coping mechanisms other than ED/SI stuff and been failing miserably, wanting to turn back to my ED with such a fierce desire.
- haven't been playing WoW much at all when it used to be my only escape from reality (have been playing for nearly 2 years now). Don't want to talk to anyone when I do get on, even though they are friends of mine (don't have any "enemies" on there that I know of). Used to play daily, for hours-long stretches at a go.
- haven't been posting on here half as much as I used to, although I keep up with you all. Just... no energy. No motivation. Didn't want to worry you with what's been going through my head.

That's about it. It sounds like a major depressive episode to me which terrifies me, as I really don't want to spiral downwards NOR be put on (YET ANOTHER) med. Antidepressants (ADs) don't work worth **** for me. I see my NP on Wednesday. I also see my nutritionist on Wednesday and I'm terrified that I'll have gained a bajillion pounds because I DON'T CARE ABOUT MY MEAL PLAN.


Sorry for the epic length of this post that's ****ing ALL ABOUT ME. I know I am not worth a post this length, but whatever....... :crying:

Scarletdreamer 18-09-2010 01:41 AM

Sorry for such a freaking long post...


...I feel so damn useless.

Kahlia1981 18-09-2010 02:20 AM

*huggles all who can accept* - Sorry, just not feeling up to much at the moment. *sigh*

risenfromperdition 18-09-2010 02:20 AM

*hugs april tight*
im completely useless right now [sory :/] but am thikning of you <3

*curls up in corner of ward and sighs*

SoMuchMore 18-09-2010 02:44 AM

*hugs lia* im sorry you feel you are going into a dark place. Try to fight it with everything you have though. I'm glad that writing is keeping you sane. Remember you can always talk to us.

*hugs jill* i agree with what lia and april said. I am concerned about you hun, even if you say that you are actually fine.

*hugs april* Don't worry it wasn't just you that made me feel kinda invisible. I'm not mad or anything like that. I'm sorry that you are feeling so low. You are NOT useless though. It sounds like you have a lot going on in your head right now and with lack of energy I can understand why you havent felt like posting much. 12 weeks is AMAZING! I am so proud of you for that. Keep it up, I know you can make it out of the depressed state, just be gentle and patient with yourself.

*hugs helen* o wow i am so sorry to hear about the situations with your best friend. Hope everything is okay there. Is college going well? I know I understand being busy and not always having time to check on here so no worries about that. Glad that you are okay-ish though. Was just starting to worry about if you were okay or not (hence the post were i was like *looks around for helen* haha)

*hugs kahlia* You don't need to be sorry. You okay? and good luck with the changing (coming off) of meds. Hopefully your doctor is receptive to the idea. Especially as it seems you know what the risks are and it is what you actually want.

*cuddles heather*

Yeah, maybe i am doing too much... I just got an interview for another web design project... but its good right? I am getting experience so I can leave this place and go somewhere new. Taking alone time tonight.. Yes i know its kinda lame for me, a uni student, to sit alone in my apt on a friday night, but i just don't want to deal with anyone right now.

frenchhorn 18-09-2010 03:03 AM

*hugs all who can accept lots*
Hi Hannah, welcome, I'm Oliver :)

I have a horrible headache and its 3 am here and I'm still up, intentionally, me and my best friend are getting a coach to London at 6.30, but we are meeting a friend there at 5.30, so we have to leave at 4.45, so we decided sleep was pointless an we're sleep on the coach

So I'm sorry I'm not up for individual replies, but I just wanted to say that NONE of you are useless, all of you are wonderful, caring, friendly people.

misskitty112 18-09-2010 03:28 AM

*hugs Oliver*

I'm sorry guys. I can't do individuals. I'm so damn low.
Anyway, I'm attempting to start opening up about everything that's bothering me... bit by bit... So I wrote a bit in my blog tonight. And I'll keep writing some every day, other day, week, or something like that until I get it all out. If you'd like to read, my blog is:
I also may put the link in my profile if I figure out where to do so.

risenfromperdition 18-09-2010 05:43 AM

so... i decided to put an operation beautiful note in the bathroom stall at my uni at like eye level... so i came back today [put it there on wed] and thought someone had taken it off... turns out they put it on the wall instead AND wrote thansk on it =]
The following content has been hidden - Reason : your computers will thank me >.>

and since im bored you get more pics of op beautfiul stuff.. :P

not technically operation beautiful, but got it from a cool ryl person so =]

(ignore *me* in the pic ><)

risenfromperdition 18-09-2010 05:47 AM

so i dont wanna overload your poor computers with one post...

The following content has been hidden - Reason : spaaace

Labels to put on the postits

close ups

new stack of postits [used the other putting notes in ed-self help books in borders =p

:) love you guyss

risenfromperdition 18-09-2010 05:49 AM

*hugs felicia* <3

MammaMia 18-09-2010 10:23 AM

Oh Heather, I LOVE THEM!!! We won't ignore you in that photo because you are beautiful too :D

Laura, college is going well thank you :D We start the course properly on Monday, can't wait. Although Mondays are our longest days lol!! Am hoping they've reduced our lunch and can go earlier :D We shall see.

Oliver, you'll still be on the coach I'm sure but hope you have fun in London.

April, I'm sorry you're struggling so much sweetie *hugs*

*hugs all the wardies*

Doikers 18-09-2010 10:34 AM

*Hugs April* I'm so sorry you're so low:S

*Hugs Kahlia*

*Hugs Laura*

*Hugs Helen*

*Hugs Heather* I love your notes!

*Hugs Oliver* Enjoy your trip :)

*Hugs Felicia*

*Hugs Julie*

*Hugs Everyone else*

It took quite the effort to pull myself out of bed again today *Sigh* I hope I perk up a bit today ........

shadowedsoul 18-09-2010 01:21 PM

Cuddles all, erm kind of strugging today. Feeling numb and a bit spacey again. Curls up in corner.

xxjuliexx 18-09-2010 01:23 PM

:notsure: :ermm: :doze: :brushteeth: :snoozle:

Doikers 18-09-2010 02:56 PM

I'm feeling numb today *sigh*
I want to Drink but can't as I'm on Antabuse , so the rational part of me thinks that a good thing but the numb part of me is just wanting to blot it all out.
I am a little bit triggered too. Sorry .

*Hugs Julie*

*Hugs Jill*

*Nurses Turkish Apple Tea*

Scarletdreamer 18-09-2010 03:02 PM

Blahhhhh....... I don't feel like doing anything, I don't feel like doing anything.


Sorry for my epic-length post last night. What a selfish pig I am. >_<

How is everyone today?

Mark, sorry you're not feeling the best... but Turkish apple tea sounds FANTASTIC!!! :) <3 *cuddles*

Doikers 18-09-2010 03:16 PM

*Hugs April Tons* You are NOT a selfish pig , you are going through a tough time but that doesn't make you that . I don't want to do anything either so I know the feeling *Squishes*

life-hurts 18-09-2010 04:11 PM

Feeling very triggered today. :-(
I'll say hi properly to everyone later. Can't really concentrate right now. Need to distract myself from myself. I just need to scream :eek: Sorry for blurting, I just need to vent. :blush:

Doikers 18-09-2010 04:49 PM

*Hugs Hannah* It's okay to vent here , we all do it , heh . Sorry you are so triggered :(

shadowedsoul 18-09-2010 05:08 PM

Erm think I just mde a really stuiped stuff up. Damn it and it was going so well.

Doikers 18-09-2010 05:18 PM

What happened Jill? are you okay?

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